Sunday, December 28, 2008

Ya No Es Asi !!!!!

Moenia - Ya No Es Asi : "Album: Adicion (1999); Track: 08

Hoy me voy a levantar y quiero comenzar
un día que no lastime.
No tendré que preguntar por donde caminar.
Y no tienen que seguirme.

El sol me quemará la cara
pero yo no diré nada.
Porque si alguna vez creí que nunca iba a salir
Ahora sé que ya no es asi.

Fueron tantas las mañanas sin luz en mi ventana
mis ojos no podían verla.
Noches sin saber de sueño por miedo a no ser el dueño
de lo que pudiera ser.

Y voy curando las heridas de todas las cosas vividas.
Si otras veces me perdí queriendo escapar de aquí.
Ahora sé que ya no es asi.
Ahora sé que ya no es asi."

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Driving. Not too fast, not too slow... Love is my co-pilot.



Again...this song. I feel through music... this song has been accompanying me for the past months, on and on... I started driving towards a place I don´t know ... I haven´t discovered where this road will take me, but I know that the static phase is all over.
There are some lines about the previous post that had a *strange* impact on me last night.
*Perhaps the most important message to take away from The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die is that it’s never too late to start leading a meaningful life. Age doesn’t matter. All you need is the knowledge and the will to change.


A frequent message on The BridgeMaker is to not allow shame, regret or fear keep you from creating the life that you want. No matter what the past holds, it is the past. Life is about moving forward; about living a life that resonates with truth and purpose.*
I am true to my essence. I love, grow and learn every day. Some of us learn the hard way... and I have learnt a lot lately. Yes, the hard way, and with so much pain. But at the end of the road I want to be able to turn back and see that I could change and that there is a great power that moves me every minute to be strong and to give love.
Funny to see how only a few weeks ago I read my horoscope and it said * While it may seem as though you’ve got the short end of whatever stick you covet, you’ve actually got limitless potential for more of whatever you want. Especially love — unfathomable amounts of love.* ... I laughed in a cynical way and said *yeah right... as if !*.
And today after all that happened, and after taking the dark glasses of my eyes and my heart, I can say that it is SO true, there are indeed unfathomable amounts of love. I am blessed with so many loving souls around me. And the love I give has no limits either.
So I just drive... and love is my co-pilot.


Sometimes, I feel the fear of,
uncertainty stinging clear.
And I can't help but ask
myself how much I'll let the fear
take the wheel and steer.

It's driven me before, and it seems to a faint,
haunting mass appeal.
But lately I, am beginning to find that I,
should be the one behing the wheel.

Chorus

Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there,
with open arms and open eyes, yeah.
Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there,
I'll be there....

So if I, decide to waiver my,
chance to be one of, the hive.
Will I, choose water over wine
and hold my own and drive?

It's driven me before, and it seems to be the way,
that everyone else gets around,
But lately I'm, beginning to find that,
When I drive myself my light is found.

Chorus

Would you choose, water over wine,
hold the wheel and drive...

ChorusSometimes, I feel the fear of,
uncertainty stinging clear.
And I can't help but ask
myself how much I'll let the fear
take the wheel and steer.

It's driven me before, and it seems to a faint,
haunting mass appeal.
But lately I, am beginning to find that I,
should be the one behing the wheel.

Chorus

Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there,
with open arms and open eyes, yeah.
Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there,
I'll be there....

So if I, decide to waiver my,
chance to be one of, the hive.
Will I, choose water over wine
and hold my own and drive?

It's driven me before, and it seems to be the way,
that everyone else gets around,
But lately I'm, beginning to find that,
When I drive myself my light is found.

Chorus

Would you choose, water over wine,
hold the wheel and drive...

ChorusBlink and you miss a beat
Keep pne of your eyes open at all times.
Think that you're on the brink?
The shit hasn't even begun to hit the fan.
Consequence you'll see will be stranger
than a ganng of drunken mimes.
Situation has a stink.
Better clear the air before
your son becomes a man.

Blink, everything's been augmented,
you've been left so far behind.
I think, for sure, next time
you should wear a pair of eyes
in the back or your head.
Consequence you've seen
has been stranger than si-fi of any kind.
Situation baffles me,
I guess it's ture, you too
are one of the walking dead.

(Chorus):
You better think fast!
Casue you never know
whats comming around the bend.
You better not blink!
For consequence is a bigger
word than you think.
It's bigger than you or me
(Repeat) Chorus

Thursday, December 25, 2008

10 Wonderful Gifts that Give Us Hope


By Alex Blackwell @ theBridgeMaker

“Once you choose hope, anything’s possible.” - Christopher Reeve

I love the Christmas season. The next several days will be filled with excitement as Mary Beth and I finish our Christmas shopping and make final preparations to extend the Christmas spirit into our home. Gifts need to be wrapped and shipped; several holiday parties are scheduled, and our favorite Christmas treats are waiting to be prepared, and eaten, with joyful gusto.

Through the busyness of our lives, though, it can be easy to forget why we celebrate Christmas in the first place. We buy the gifts, decorate our homes and reach out to family and friends not because there is an obligation to do so, but because by perpetuating the Christmas tradition, year-after-year, we are saying it matters to keep this time of year sacred.

Christmas provides us with the opportunity to see the gifts of hope that are still in style; are in the perfect color and just the right size to wear all year long.

However, it can be easy to be hopeless right now. The world is far from perfect. The instability of our economy and the recent events in Mumbai has some of us scratching our heads and wondering why we even bother to keep hope alive.

For me, the reason is clear – hope is a wonderful gift I have been given that helps me see the goodness that exists all around me and in me. Hope sustains my belief that no matter what happens, incredible value and grace can be found in the experience.

Over the course of my lifetime, I have received these wonderful gifts that give me hope. I share them from my heart to yours:

When we understand our lives count for something. We have a purpose for being here. It may be to become a community or business leader, a scientist responsible for finding an important cure to a disease, or to be a loving spouse and parent. It really doesn’t matter what we do. What matters is how we take the gifts we have been given and use them to inspire and care for others. When we do this, it’s clear our lives do indeed count for something.

Refusing temptation. The enemy will taunt us and lure us into believing what feels good is good. When we cover our eyes, shield our hearts and refrain from doing something that we wouldn’t want those closest to us to know about, we breathe new-found hope into our souls and remind ourselves of the dignity and self-respect that lives there.

Finding the courage to start-over. Starting over again is not a sign of defeat; it’s a sign of hope. It signifies where we were heading was not the proper destination, but we still have the energy and passion to keep going – albeit in a different direction. Staring over recharges our spirit and keeps us moving forward in life.
When personal satisfaction trumps instant gratification. I have been tempted by the over-use of alcohol for as long as I can remember. When I find myself alone, my desire to drink, and drink to excess, increases.

Recently my wife and daughter went out of town for a long weekend. The temptation was strong, but the need to stay sober was surprisingly stronger. There’s no question I would have enjoyed the temporary effects of the alcohol, but self-care intercepted the temptation and brought with it an even more stimulating feeling of personal satisfaction.

When time does heal old wounds. Emotional pain will not last forever. While it’s true that deep scars can be left behind, the intense pain associated with the trauma does tend to wane and yield to time.
When the hole created by the pain begins to be filled-in with love and grace, hope begins to seep through until its healing presence can at least start working on the edges as it gradually moves more towards the core.


Forgiveness. Forgiveness provides hope for a new start. To forgive is to let go of the anger, shame and resentment that is keeping you stuck in the pain and in the past. Providing forgiveness does not condone the circumstance – it just provides a way to move pass it.
To be clear, the act of forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. The root word give in the word forgiveness reminds us that when we forgive we give ourselves hope for a new beginning.

Change. Change allows us to redefine and reinvent ourselves. When we are open to change, we are given the opportunity to see things differently and to do things differently.
We change in order to grow. Real growth, however, can occur incrementally. Meaning we don’t have to change everything about ourselves or our lives all at once, we just need to begin changing some things – a little at a time.

Decisions bring about change and change brings about growth and growth brings hope. So, begin by making a few new decisions, new choices, about how you want to live the rest of your life and feel the hope as it begins to swell inside of you.

Do something good every day. Inspiration can be found in the oddest places. One morning last week I was in a Starbucks getting my morning charge when I noticed the statement, “Do something good every day,” hand printed on a chalkboard underneath the menu. Starbucks is running this campaign over the holiday season by donating 5 cents (on select products) to the Global Fund to help save lives in Africa.
Do something good every day doesn’t just have to be a temporary marketing campaign, it can also be a daily mantra if we choose to remember its challenge. By doing something good every day we can choose to bring hope to people we know and to people we don’t know. I think by doing so, we will bring hope to ourselves, too.

Love will continue forever. In my article, How to Love Consciously, I write:

There will be a day when I no longer share this life with Mary Beth. When that day arrives, my hope is she will know my intent was to discover exactly what she wanted and my conscious choice was to give her more of that.

The article was written from the point-of-view of how to love someone with whom we are sharing a life right now. The next phase of love is the stage that will last forever. The choices we make today will impact and shape what that eternal love will be like.

When love is given without conditions, and it is returned authentically, we can have hope the love will continue forever.

When we understand that we are enough I am enough. If I never make a gazillion dollars, I’m still enough. If I never write a best-selling book, I’m still enough. If I never achieve every dream and goal I have, I’m still enough.
I’m enough because each day I try to be the best parent, husband, friend, employee and world citizen I can be.

Please don’t get me wrong, I stumble through most days replete with mistakes. I miss opportunities to connect with my children, I irritate Mary Beth and I foul-up plenty of other things as well. But, at the end of the day, a gentle peacefulness layered with feelings of hope settles over me because I understand that I don’t have to be perfect, or try to be perfect any longer, I just have to be Alex and that’s more than enough.

The day after Christmas will be a busy one. It will be on a Friday and most folks will have the day off from work. The malls and shopping centers will be packed with shoppers eager to return or exchange gifts that didn’t seem to fit or just didn’t feel good enough to wear.

There’s a good chance my family will be in the crowd, too. The sweaters, boots and jeans we unwrapped the day before will be scrutinized to see if they are the right style; are in the perfect color and just the right size. If necessary, these gifts will be offered up for things we like better.

The gifts that give us hope, on the other hand, do not need a return policy. These gifts are crafted for each one of us and if we give ourselves permission to try them on, we will see how well they fit and how good they feel.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

I think I´ll follow my heart...






Sky fits heaven so fly it
That's what the prophet said to me
Child fits mother so hold your baby tight
That's what my future could see
Fate fits karma so use it
That's what the wise man said to me
Love fits virtue so hold on to the light
That's what our future will be


Chorus:
Traveling down this road
Watching the signs as I go
I think I'll follow the sun
Isn't everyone just
Traveling down their own road
Watching the signs as they go
I think I'll follow my heart
It's a very good place to start


Traveling down my own road
Watching the signs as I go
Traveling down my own road
And I'm watching the signs as they go
Traveling, traveling
Watching the signs as I go


Hand fits giving so do it
That's what the Gospel said to me
Life fits living so let your judgments go
That's how our future should be


(chorus)
Traveling down my own road
Watching the signs as they go
Traveling down my own road
And I'm watching the signs as I go
Traveling, traveling
Watching the signs as I go


Monday, December 15, 2008

You've got me dancin' and cryin'....

You've got me dancin' and cryin'
Rollin' and flying
Love don't let me go
You've got me
drownin' in a river
Cold but in fever
Love don't let me go
Don't let me gooooooooooo
You got me dancin'
You've got me dancin' and cryin'
Rollin' and flying
Love don't let me go
You've got me
drownin' in a river
Cold but in fever
Love don't let me go
You've got me dancin' and cryin'
Rollin' and flying
Love don't let me go
You've got me
drownin' in a river
Cold but in fever
Love don't let me go
Don't let me go
Don't let me go
Don't let me goooooooooooo
Don't let me go
Don't let me go
[ Find more Lyrics at www.mp3lyrics.org/6c ]
Love don't let me go
Don't let me go
Don't let me gooooooo
Don't let me go
Got me drowning in a river
I was cold really in fever he he
He he he
Dancing and crying
Dancing and crying
Dancing and crying heeee
You've got me
Dancing and crying
Dancing and crying
Dancing and crying heeee
You've got me dancin' and cryin'
Rollin' and flying
Love don't let me go
You've got me
drownin' in a river
Cold but in fever
Love don't let me go
Don't let me gooooooo
You've got me dancin' and cryin'
Rollin' and flying
Love don't let me go
You've got me
drownin' in a river
Cold but in fever
Love don't let me go
Don't let me go
Dancing and crying
Don't let me go!

Friday, December 12, 2008

Perdonar: El primer paso hacia la sanación


Uff Mapachis... éste tema es tan difícil... cuando yo leía acerca del "PERDON" me daba mucha rabia. Y leía y leía... Yo no podía entender, aceptar y luego perdonar. Pero se volvió algo tan necesario e indispensable para sanar mi corazón, que bueno, ya tú sabes cuál fue el resultado. Te invito aquí también, a que pienses en TI, en TU felicidad y TU corazón, y en las cargas que te puedes quitar de encima de los hombros para ser libre y felíz. Aquí también hay cosas que podermos aprovechar. Usa lo que te sirva.

más besos

yo

El Perdonar



"Perdonar es el camino de la sanación...es el dejar marchar la dureza que se tenía hacia una persona ; soltando todas esas cosas que abrigábamos contra esa persona y soltándola de ese vínculo...perdonar es un proceso que dura toda la vida y se va recibiendo la gracia en cada momento."

Nota: Tomado del libro Sanación Intergeneracional, por el Padre Robert DeGrandis S.S.J. y Linda Schubert.

"La sanación interior total solo puede ocurrir, cuando perdonamos a aquellos que nos han herido, cuando le entregamos por completo al Señor nuestras heridas del pasado. Sea cual sea la experiencia que has tenido, las heridas que hayas sufrido, Jesús quiere curarlas y sanar tu corazón roto. (Ver el Salmo 147:3) Quiere llenar el vacío que hay en tu vida con Su amor. Quiere liberarte de todo cautiverio para que puedas sentirte realizado (a). Después que le hayas pedido a Dios que te libere, después que le hayas orado para que rompa todas las cadenas que te han atado, después que Él haya limpiado todas tus heridas de las cosas que las infectaban, después que hayas perdonado a todos los que te hirieron; estarás listo (a) para pedirle a Jesús que sane tus recuerdos dolorosos. ¡Y la noticia maravillosa, gloriosa, es que Él sanará todas tus heridas!"

Nota: Tomado del libro Forgiveness & Inner Healing, por el Padre Robert DeGrandis S.S.J. y Betty Tapscott.

"El perdón, ciertamente, no surge en el hombre de manera espontánea y natural. Perdonar sinceramente en ocasiones puede resultar heroico. Aquellos que se han quedado sin nada por haber sido despojados de sus propiedades, los prófugos y cuantos han soportado el ultraje de la violencia, no pueden dejar de sentir la tentación del odio y de la venganza. La experiencia liberadora del perdón, aunque llena de dificultades, puede ser vivida también por un corazón herido, gracias al poder curativo del amor, que tiene su primer origen en Dios-Amor. La inmensa alegría del perdón, ofrecido y acogido, sana heridas aparentemente incurables, restablece nuevamente las relaciones y tiene sus raíces en el inagotable amor de Dios." (Juan Pablo II, l-l-97)


¿Qué significa perdonar?
"Perdonar no es lo mismo que justificar, excusar u olvidar. Perdonar no es lo mismo que reconciliarse. La reconciliación exige que dos personas que se respetan mutuamente, se reúnan de nuevo. El perdón es la respuesta moral de una persona a la injusticia que otra ha cometido contra ella. Uno puede perdonar y sin embargo no reconciliarse, como en el caso de una esposa continuamente maltratada por su compañero." ("A definition of forgiveness", por Robert Enright, "The World of Forgiveness", octubre/noviembre de l996.)

"El perdón permite liberarse de todo lo soportado para seguir adelante. Usted se acuerda del frío del invierno, pero ya no tiembla porque ha llegado la primavera".

"El perdón opera un cambio de corazón. Debemos ponerle fin al ciclo del dolor por nuestro propio bien y por el bien de futuras generaciones. Es un regalo que debemos proporcionarles a nuestros hijos. Podemos pasar del dolor a la compasión. Cuando perdonamos, reconocemos el valor intrínseco de la otra persona".

"El perdonar no borra el mal hecho, no quita la responsabilidad al ofensor por el daño hecho ni niega el derecho a hacer justicia a la persona que ha sido herida. Tampoco le quita la responsabilidad al ofensor por el daño hecho... Perdonar es un proceso complejo. Es algo que sólo nosotros mismos podemos hacer...Paradójicamente, al ofrecer nuestra buena voluntad al ofensor, encontramos el poder para sanarnos...Al ofrecer este regalo a la otra persona, nosotros también lo recibimos."

Nota: Tomado de Excerpts from the talks at the National Conference on Forgiveness, Universidad de Wisconsin-Madison, marzo de l995.


¿Por qué debemos perdonar?
Un psicólogo norteamericano, Robert Enright, afirmó que las personas que han sido profunda e injustamente heridas pueden sanar emocionalmente perdonando a su ofensor. El insigne fraile dominico Henri Lacordaire dijo: "¿Quieres ser feliz un instante? Véngate. ¿Quieres ser feliz toda la vida? Perdona".

Un discípulo de Jesús le preguntó: "¿Maestro, cuántas veces he de perdonar a mi hermano? ¿Siete veces?" "Siete veces no, setenta veces siete", le contestó Jesús. Perdonar es un don de Dios. La oración sincera, procedente de un corazón limpio de pecado, ayuda a "desmantelar" la ofensa, a perdonar al que nos hirió.


Los primeros pasos hacia el perdón
A menudo una mujer que ha sido víctima de maltratos físicos o emocionales durante mucho tiempo, siente ira contra sí misma por todo lo que permitió que le sucediera. La primera persona a quien ella debe perdonar es a sí misma.

"Para poder perdonar a su agresor, la víctima debe comprender que lo sucedido fue una ofensa. Debe reconocer que ella es tan valiosa como todas las demás personas, y que sus necesidades y sentimientos son importantes. Si intenta perdonar antes de valorarse, su perdón no será apropiado. Hasta que la víctima comprenda el valor que tiene como persona, no se respetará a sí misma." ("Forgiveness and the intrinsic value of persons", Margaret R. Holmgren, American Philosophical Quarterly, octubre de l993.)

"Desde el punto de vista psicológico, según el psiquiatra norteamericano Richard Fitzgibbon, hay tres formas básicas de lidiar con la ira: l. Negarla. 2. Expresarla de muchas maneras mientras pretendemos que no estamos ofendidos. 3. Perdonar. El Dr. Fitzgibbon y otros psiquiatras y psicólogos, aplican una terapia que induce al paciente a perdonar, y comprueban que hay una mejoría considerable. Aquí se ve que la verdadera Ciencia coincide con el Evangelio de Cristo. Estos son los pasos terapéuticos que ellos recomiendan:

l. Confrontar la rabia interior, la vergüenza, la herida. La persona puede estar deprimida sin saber por qué, hasta que descubre la causa, oculta por muchos años o sólo por horas.

2. Reconocer la fuente de la herida, y descubrir el porqué.

3. Elegir perdonar. Aunque haya base para la ira y la venganza, no se elige eso, sino perdonar. Y no tiene que ser sólo por motivos religiosos, sino también por instinto de conservación: le va a hacer bien psíquica y físicamente.

4. Buscar una nueva forma de pensar sobre esa persona que nos ha hecho mal. Cuando lo hacemos, por lo general descubrimos que es un ser vulnerable, probablemente con heridas.

"Debemos liberarnos del dominio que la persona que nos ha herido ejerce todavía sobre nosotros mediante nuestro odio. Perdonar libera la memoria y nos permite vivir en el presente, sin recurrencias constantes al pasado doloroso.

"Todo insulto recibido puede convertirse en una nueva oportunidad de crecimiento interior, una gracia que nos envía Dios, porque al perdonar somos canales de Su misericordia. Pero además, como dice el "Padre Nuestro", la oración que el mismo Cristo nos enseñó, cuando perdonamos también nosotros somos perdonados por Dios. Si rabiamos por una ofensa, si planeamos vengarnos por un insulto, si el odio se aloja en nuestra alma, el adversario (Satanás), habrá ganado la batalla arrastrándonos al mal mayor."

Nota: Esta información fue tomada del artículo escrito por Dora Amador y publicado en "El Nuevo Herald", junio 5 de l997.

A la pregunta sobre por qué perdonar, los creyentes respondemos que la experiencia de haber sido perdonados muchas veces por Dios nos compromete a perdonar a nuestros semejantes.


Para comprender mejor lo que significa pedir perdón y perdonar
"Perdón es la fragancia que la violeta suelta, cuando se levanta el zapato que la aplastó". (Mark Twain)

"Pedir perdón no es lo mismo que disculparse, porque disculparse es excusar los motivos por los cuales uno ejecutó una acción con el objeto de que la persona afectada por ella pueda comprenderla. Pedir perdón es asumir la totalidad de nuestra falta, con toda ella, y sentir todo el mal que produjo, decir que aunque no puedas del todo repararla, te produjo dolor la acción, lo sientes, estás arrepentido, y quieres de vuelta procurar lo bueno... La estatura humana del perdón por ello es mucho más alta y propia de los grandes, y necesaria en los cristianos porque hemos sido perdonados desde antes de existir, y así como perdonemos se nos perdonará". ("El perdón", C.S.Lewis)

"Un conocido teólogo escribió que ' Los santos, muchas veces al rezar tartamudeaban. Este tartamudeo es más agradable a Dios que las frases retóricas, por más bellas y brillantes que puedan ser '. Muchas veces nos cuesta pedir disculpas a nuestros amigos, compañeros... por un mal acto que hemos cometido. Pedir perdón por una mala acción es la forma más poderosa de demostrar nuestra humildad y honestidad. Sería interesante que hoy recordaras a aquellas personas con las cuales mantienes una enemistad por culpa tuya. ¡Reconcíliate con ellas con palabras fáciles y honestas y si hace falta tartamudea! Hay una frase increíble que te ayudará a pensar: 'El perdón de las flores es tan bonito que llegan incluso a perfumar a aquél que las aplasta con la mano' ".

"Perdonar no es olvidar, es recordar sin dolor, sin amargura, sin la herida abierta; perdonar es recordar sin andar cargando eso, sin respirar por la herida, entonces te darás cuenta que has perdonado.

"En una parte del Padre Nuestro Dios nos dice: ' perdona nuestras ofensas así como nosotros perdonamos a los que nos ofenden'. Perdonar, es una decisión que deja en libertad tu corazón, y deja limpia toda herida, la amargura en ti ya no reinará. Si tú quieres experimentar el perdón del Señor, debes primero perdonar.

"Dios dijo: 'Yo soy la vid y ustedes la rama, ustedes lejos de mí no pueden hacer nada' y nada incluye todo, incluye perdonar. Dejemos que Dios nos ayude con nuestra decisión de perdonar. No fuimos hechos para odiar, sino para amar ..." (R.C.A.N.)

"Amar a quien nos ha ofendido desarma al adversario y puede incluso transformar un campo de batalla en un lugar de solidaria cooperación. Éste es un desafío que concierne a cada individuo, pero también a las comunidades, a los pueblos y a la entera humanidad. Afecta, de manera especial, a las familias. No es fácil convertirse al perdón y a la reconciliación. Reconciliarse puede resultar problemático cuando en el origen se encuentra una culpa propia. Si en cambio la culpa es del otro, reconciliarse puede incluso ser visto como una irrazonable humillación. Para dar semejante paso es necesario un camino interior de conversión; se precisa el coraje de la humilde obediencia al mandato de Jesús. Su palabra no deja lugar a dudas: no sólo quien provoca la enemistad, sino también quien la padece debe buscar la reconciliación (cfr. Mt 5, 23-24). Juan Pablo II ." (Extracto del Mensaje de Cuaresma 2001 de Juan Pablo II. )

"Perdonar y pedir perdón, es dejar que actúe el Espíritu en el lugar donde existe nuestro orgullo y nuestro resentimiento."(Anónimo)

Nota: Este último texto fue preparado por el Instituto Tomás Moro en Asunción, Paragüay y se reproduce con su autorización.

"Dios nos mira más allá de nuestros pecados con mucho amor...Cuanto más vemos y sentimos su bondad, más nos enamoramos de Él. En cuanto más nos enamoramos de Él, nuestras vidas automáticamente se van alineando con Él. Toda sanación en nuestras vidas fluye de esta relación amorosa. Al entrar en un profundo conocimiento de su amor, es cuando, de hecho, nos sanamos y tenemos la experiencia más sutil de la unión con Él, sabiendo que su amor puede transformar las más profundas heridas. "

Thursday, December 11, 2008

La Página de los Cuentos - 'NO TEMAS AMAR' de caio




Mi vida. Claramente yo no voy a decirte cómo, ni qué hacer ni con tu vida ni con tu corazón, jamás será mi intención ... pero si puedo mostrarte cosas quede alguna u otra forma llegan a mi, y que leo y quiero compartir y que finalmente algo nos enseñan... algo nos muestran. Así como el cuento que me mandaste hoy, que te lo agradezco en el alma. Me dejó muchas cosas para pensar. Gracias nuevamente.
Este cuento, me ha parecido muy bonito siempre. Hay cosas que no comparto en un 100%, pero no siempre estamos de acuerdo totalmente con todo no? Eso significa para mí, falta de carácter y de opinión. Entonces, simplemente yo hago como algún día me dijeron: "lee, toma lo que piensas que te sirva y lo demás lo desechas.". Y así hago.... y aquí hay cosas que nos sirven a todos . Yo , a pesar de todo el dolor, creo que dejé mi temor atrás. Me quise volver una " super-mujer" y ser feliz. Y ya no le temo a amar.


besos miles

yo



NO TEMAS AMAR
Por: CARLOS ALBERTO MERCAICH (caio)


"Anoche me encontré con mi amigo Pablo, este no estaba muy bien. Sentía que era el hombre más infeliz del mundo. Había sido engañado. Aquello que tanto amaba y respetaba acababa de sembrar el temor en su corazón. Sentía que ya no podría volver a amar sin que la sospecha lo invadiera de miedos. Lo miré a los ojos, le dije que fuera a su casa, cerrar sus ojos y dejara que el tiempo y el silencio marcarán sus pasos.
No podía quedar al margen de lo que le sucedía a mi amigo; era necesario involucrarme, así que tomando algunas palabras de “El Profeta”, de “El Principito” y otras yerbas, le escribí este consejo en una carta:
Cuando el hombre ama sin prejuicios el camino de sus sentimientos comienza a transitar los lugares más inescrutables del corazón. La vida comulga nuestro espíritu haciendo que cada partícula de nuestra respiración sea el motor de esos sentimientos.
Nadie puede ni debe querer conducir el amor, simplemente debe dejarse conducir por él. Entregarse, es hacer que el amor haga su voluntad y aceptar que existen circunstancias que nos llevan a encontrar el amor prefecto. En el amor no puede existir el temor porque el temeroso se aleja de la perfección perdiendo de vista el centro de toda la existencia.
Cuando el amor nos invade es necesario tener presente que en ningún momento de nuestra vida podemos decir: amo, Dios está en mi corazón sino más bien, amo, pues vivo en el corazón de Dios . Hay veces que el dolor nos lleva a tomar decisiones que ni el hombre mismo comprende porque las toma. Esa incertidumbre hace que aquella seguridad que creía poseer se desvanezca ante la primera contrariedad. Y los ecos del temor nos enredan, nos confunden…nos encierran en nuestro ego. Es allí cuando perdemos de vista lo esencial y dejamos de lado la esencia de las cosas. Y cuánto más dudas allanan nuestro corazón, más temeroso se torna nuestro amor.

Es necesario comprender que cuando uno ama, lo demás llega por añadidura; pues amar implica sacrificio. EL sacrificio de saber que en algún momento de nuestra vida algo debemos dejar. Amar, implica resignar, ya que no existe amor que no resigne hasta su propia vida por la felicidad de otros. Es imposible imaginar el amor fuera del amor porque el amor todo lo sufre, todo lo cree, todo lo espera, todo lo soporta.

¿Cuántas veces hemos amado hasta las lagrimas y el miedo hace que ocultemos nuestros sentimientos más genuinos? Pues digo algo: “El llorar no hace débil al hombre, el no saber llorar por lo que se ama, si”.

¿Cuántas veces el dolor de alguna palabra nos embriaga de ira apuntando de nuestro ser la palabra perdón? Sabio no es aquel que nos perdona luego de sufrir un gran dolor si no aquel que aún herido por los clavos de la indiferencia, nos dice: “Ya has sido perdonado pues no sabia lo que hacías”.

Podría enumerar un sin fin de circunstancias que nos lleven a temer en los momentos más difíciles de nuestra vida, pero es necesario y muy importante decir que no es hombre aquel que no duda y siente temores. Por ello cuando el amor llame no escondas tus oídos al dulce timbre de su voz. Cree cuando te hable aunque su voz sea tenue, pues el amor cuanto más silencioso más nos enaltece. Puede que nos eleve y nos crucifique; puede que nos una y nos desgarre; puede que nos oprima y nos libere; puede que nos embarre y nos moldee pero sólo él es quien nos guiará hacia la fuente del conocimiento puro y quien transforma nuestra vida.

El amor da todo de si y toma todo de si. Carece de poseedor y poseído. Para el amor, el amor es todo. Es el principio y el fin. Es inútil mirar la vida sin la lente del amor porque el amor, amigo, ve a través del corazón y el corazón ve más allá de las cosas.

No se si después de leer esto supo qué hacer con sus miedos; lo que si se, es que yo comprendí cuán importante es no tener miedos a la hora de amar y saber que quien no sacrifica no aprende el verdadero sabor de la felicidad . "

Friday, December 05, 2008

Many different ways...cheap *poetry*?



there are ways to *Love*
there are ways to feel love
there are ways to feel loved
there are ways to give hope
there are ways to be kind
there are ways to fight for something
there are ways to not fight for something
there are ways to overcome obstacles
there are ways to let obstacles win
there are ways to be influenced
there are ways to be happy
there are ways to help
there are ways to give
there are ways to fool
there are ways to dream

there are ways to work
there are ways to create
there are ways to trust
there are ways to adore
there are ways to care
there are ways to open your heart
there are ways to support
there are ways to leave
there are ways to *be inhumane*

there are ways to destroy
there are ways to fake
there are ways to close your heart
there are ways to explain
there are ways to close your mind
there are ways to abandon
there are ways to speak
there are ways to listen
there are ways to promise
there are ways to ignore

there are also ways to *not feel any emotional connection*
there are ways to kill love
there are ways to let love die

there are ways to change your destiny
there are ways to fight your destiny
there are ways to mock
there are ways to turn your back to love

there are ways to lie to yourself
there are ways to lie to others
there are ways to hurt

there are ways to be cruel
there are ways to decieve
there are ways to betray

there are ways to be mean
there are ways to abuse
there are ways to scorn
there are ways to lose




but also...



there are ways to feel the pain
there are ways to face the pain
there are ways to survive in the darkness
there are ways to *see* the stars
there are ways to *read* the stars
there are ways to set revenge aside
there are ways to forgive
there are ways to forget

there are ways to heal the broken heart
there are ways to heal the broken soul
there are ways to love yourself
there are ways to choose
there are moments to choose
there are ways to look at yourself in the mirror
there are ways to live
there are ways to see life
there are ways to be brave
there are ways to find inner strenght
there are ways to find your power
there are ways to trust again
there are ways to learn lessons

there are ways to understand
there are ways to ask for help
there are ways to accept help

there are ways to face *you*
there are ways to want to change

there are ways to change
there are ways to make a change
there are ways to change a life
there are ways to look for the light

there are ways to find the light
there are ways to be grateful
there are ways to acknowledge
there are ways to say thank you
there are ways to receive love
there are ways to accept love

there are ways to give love
there are ways to be blessed
there are ways to walk
there are ways to follow your path
there are ways to be happy


and all those ways
are not
the same each one
might, could, should, did, or do use.

cheap poetry?

maybe...

maybe not.


ABSOLUT Zoloft.




Be careful when taking psychiatric medications. If it is possible, please consider other kind of treatment. Love yourself. love your body, love your brain cells.

This is not a subject that I usually bring up in a conversation or when I meet somebody, or with my friends or relatives. It´s painful and it brings up memories that eventhough are healing, they still *itch*. In fact, I rarely speak about this, but if there is one single person who is going to get any kind of benefit from this, or is going to try other kind of healing therapy, it´s worth it.

I took Zoloft for almost two years back in 1994. I was suffering from very deep and difficult to handle depression and anxiety. All I remember from that time is that I wanted to die. No more. That was all I thought about all the time. I started a psychiatric treatment after being one week at the clinic, sedated all the time, because they thought I´d try to kill myself. I didn´t try to kill myself and I don´t think I would have been able to try it, even if I wanted to die, it was something different to commit suicide. But it was horrible. After leaving the clinic I started going to the psychiatric therapy sessions, and started taking zoloft and other medication for anxiety. It was like this for almost one year. But as time passed by, I didn´t like how my treatment for depression and anxiety was developing and I *decided* to quit one day. I was feeling *OK*, and I was doing very very good at the Design School. In that year, my end of term collection won a place for a recognised and important fashion show. I felt *motivated* by all that was happening and as I was feeling *OK*, I just quit the medication. I never told my psychiatrist that I was not taking it, and I stopped going to the therapy sessions. I didn´t know that Zoloft ( as many psychictric medication) had to be withdrawn by degree. The outcome? 12 years of something *very close* to BPD ( Borderline Personality Disorder) without any kind of treatment and even worst, any kind of knowledge of what was going on in my brain or in my spirit. There is a lot of information one can find nowaydays, just use google search and you´ll get thousands of sites.

I know that sometimes the psychiatric medications are indispensable and can/must not be replaced with other kind of treatment , but it depends on the level of depression and anxiety, any other mental disorders on the patient, background, etc. And of course that has to be assessed by professionals, and not by friends or relatives. Or... even worst, you must not try to solve it by yourself. No, it doesn´t work like that. The lack of information on this kind of things , how does your brain work, what are the substances that it needs to *work* in *harmony* often causes worst damages. For example, without needing to go too far, I tried in a certain stage of this past 12 years to *find something to make me feel better*. And how intelligent I was!! I tried to do it with alcohol or drugs. Ehm... you´re right, it was not a solution. It only made things worst.

I was becoming an alcoholic, and I was spending all my money buying alcohol, and after two very bad episodes with alcohol, I said to myself that I had to stop drinking or else I´d end up in a rehab center (in the best case scenario). When I was drinking alcohol in those doses I was even more depressed the next day... and the following week. *sigh*. I decided to stop... *someone* inside , call it whatever you want, said, stop, think, this is not the way to feel better.

Another source of *non-voluntarily induced-depression* (as I call it), is the medicines I have to take for the migraines. I´ve had migraines since I was in high school. They have gotten worst through the years, and the progress of the medicine and science have given us, the people who suffer from migraines, a wide range of medications to stop the pain and the symptoms. And yes, they stop the pain, and some of them relieve the symptoms, but the next day... I feel depressed. They lower the levels of serotonin in my brain just as alcohol does. Right, another day, another week of depression...

I had a very bad depression and anxiety phase a few months ago, and I knew how it would develop if I didn´t do something about it. I didn´t want chemicals inside my body , intoxicating it, and I didn´t want to be like a " zombie" again, erasing the memory of those times, just as I was when I took Zoloft. *I decided* (and this time was the best decision) to look for a different treatment. I found a Therapist who has experience not only in the scientific part of a therapy but in alternative medicine with spiritual, and energetic healing therapies. He is also working at a rehab center for drug-addicts and alcoholics. And as you can imagine or know if you ´ve even been in a AA therapy, he´s not a *sweet lollipop*. The therapy is not nice, he has been very hard on me. There were days when I just wanted to kick him. That is just the result of being stubborn with *me*. Reluctant to accept and change translated into harder therapy sessions. But now it´s different. I understood. *sigh*.

Now, after almost four months of a "not very easy" therapy, and really putting all my efforts to overcome the depression without chemicals, also receiving not only answers but natural and excellent remedies for my body and my soul, I am getting better every day.

Alternative Medicine and Spiritual healing therapies might not work as fast as a pill of Zoloft or any other psychiatric drug taken every day, and they are not going to make you *feel-super-good* instantly like the *zesty boost* coming from drugs like speed or cocaine, or *super-mega-good* like Ecstasy, but for my own experience and opinion, the pill of Zoloft is, as the other chemical substances, only a *theatre mask* and does not solve the *real* problems. It is just a way to avoid the confrontation with yourself, with your own life, with your own flaws, with your own problems, with your past and your present and who you really are and who you want to be. That was all I got from those 12 years. Evasion. I was evading ME. My relationships at work were a disaster, my relationships with men were a bigger disaster.

I was so afraid of being alone with myself that I was not completely *me* and I *thought I needed* attention and care in extremes. I was alone most of the past years, but was not paying attention to *me*. And I was so scared to be left alone because I couldn´t find myself. Now that I have been through all this and that I know that I am a complete human being, that I don´t *need* a person to complete me, now I know I am a woman with no fears of being alone, with no fears of being *just me*, and with a lot of things to give to my family, my friends and a partner. I know that I can not search for something that I am not giving to myself in another person. This particular subject is extremely painful now, because the darkest days are gone, but the man I love has also gone.

I haven´t met anyone who can tell me the opposite about the use of chemicals to solve depression issues. All that *super-mega-happiness* or the *cool* efect of psychiatric drugs are fake. Fake happiness, fake harmony, fake wellness. It´s walking backwards, there is no road ahead. There is no light at the end of the tunnel. Only darkness, or, what it is in most of the cases and very sad, numbness and stupidity, a waste of *life* , a waste of all the talents and gifts that were given to us. The waste of the power and the beauty we have inside.

I have to acknowledge though, that depression is not just *sadness* that goes away with a *happy* motivation, it is a lot more than that, I am aware of the fact that depression might have genetic, familial, biochemical, physical, psychological, and social causes on a different level of input on each person, but I am happy and thankful, and I have been blessed, to have been receiving spiritual guidance and have been using natural medicine. But all this happened because I wanted to leave my black hole and I asked for help. The Light, the change, the help, don´t come if you don´t ask for them.

I wanted my body to be clean of chemicals, and my spirit to be free. I work on finding the key of the handcuffs I put to my spirit so I can set it free, the work on *changing me* hasn´t been easy....( who wants to admit and accept he was wrong, exercised poor judgment, made a lot of mistakes) I´ve become more aware of my flaws, but also more aware of how blessed I am, how much love I have to give and how much I can learn.

The path I have to follow is like a path of snow, I have to make the footsteps... and the path is hard to see. But this is growing, learning, changing, giving, loving ...

After all, where are we headed when we can´t see the Light, when our spirit is not well and nurtured but to a neverending cycle of going inside and outside our black holes...I hope you can all find a Spiritual Guide who can guide you to the Light.

LOVE. <3


Me.

Wednesday, December 03, 2008

...ni todo son espinas ni todo son rosas...



...una canción para mi AMOR...


TE DIGO AMOR
MIGUEL BOSE

Amor , te digo amor y suena diferente
Amor que pronunciado en eso se convierte
Y voy más lejos……..
Amor que todo entiende y da a todo un sentido
Amor y punto
Amor ¿ porqué creía que te había perdido ?

Amor de mis pecados dale a la tormenta
Que nadie sepa
Cueste lo que cueste, duela lo que sienta
Pero así es la vida
Me cierras tantas puertas , tanta otras me abres
Y no hay salida
Sea lo que quieras, pase lo que nos pase…..

No sé no sé no sé
Cuanto sabes de mi
Pero dejo que me puedas
Y permito que me lleves
Poco importa lo que hagas de mi

No sé no sé no sé
Qué es lo que quieres de mi
Me cuestionas, me estremeces
Que me arrastres o me eleves
Lo importante es lo que hagas de mi
De mi…….

Suave , sereno…

Amor, querido amor así se dan las cosas
que no te mientan
Ni todo son espinas , ni todo son rosas
No te imaginas

Amor de mis amores y con ésto ya acabo
Así de claro
Amor ¿ dónde estuviste amor , dónde has estado ?

No sé no sé no sé
Cuanto sabes de mi
Pero dejo que me puedas
Y permito que me lleves
Poco importa lo que hagas de mi

No sé no sé no sé
Qué es lo que quieres de mi
Me cuestionas, me estremeces
Que me arrastres o me eleves
Lo importante es lo que hagas de mi

Hay amores que vienen y van
No vuelven a darse en la vida
(érase una vez la historia de una herida)
hay amores y hay un ¡ ay amor!
Amor que se lleva la vida
(érase una vez que quise qué quería)

about attitude...


The Window

source: womenandhope.com


Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.


The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.


The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said.


Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.


One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should he have all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair.


As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.


Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.


The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.


Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.


Author Unknown

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Hope and Faith Change the Brain


by Dr David R. Hamilton Ph.D

You may have heard of the recent reports that much of the reason that antidepressant drugs work is the placebo effect.


The research was published a few months ago. It was a meta-analysis (summary of a number of scientific studies) of Fluoxetine (Prozac), Venlafaxine (Effexor), Nefazodone (Serzone), and Paroxetine (Seroxat), covering 35 clinical trials involving 5,133 patients. The placebo effect was shown to account for 81% of the effect of the drugs. That means that 81% of the effectiveness of the drugs was placebo.


Let me clear something up regarding this. This doesn't mean that the drugs don't work. It really means that the placebo effect is very high for antidepressants. That is, the power of the mind is considerable!


The drugs probably do work, although we don't absolutely know for sure, but when we believe in a drug, whatever the drug is for, our own natural healing capacity kicks in.
Recent MRI brain scans taken of people on Prozac, for instance, showed changes in the brain when a patient took Prozac but showed the same changes when they received a placebo and just thought it was Prozac. And similarly, when Parkinson's' patients were given an anti-Parkinson's drug, their tremors reduced and dopamine was released in the brain. However when patients were given a placebo but thought it was the drug, the tremors also reduced and the brain still released dopamine in the same places.


When we take a tablet every day, we receive a little tablet of hope and faith. We hope that it works and we have faith that it does. What new scientific research is now revealing is that it is this hope and faith that heals us. We have the power to heal! We always have. We just never realised it!

Every day, when we take our medication, hope and faith produce real chemical changes in our brain and even microscopic changes in the structure of the brain. Hope and Faith change the brain...!!!

These lead to changes throughout the body at the cellular level. Our own awareness of what is wrong with us, incredibly, directs where the cellular changes occur. That is how amazing and powerful we are.
So if you are sick.....Intend to get better. Determination, coupled with hope and faith can move mountains. It always has!


Copyright © 2008 by David R. Hamilton Ph.D.

** ** ** ** ** ** ** ** ** ** ** **

My comment: Determination, willpower, love hope and faith did it for me :)

Monday, December 01, 2008

Para l@s que quiero mucho...

fuente: motivalia
Todo depende de tu actitud, sí, mientras tú te muestres optimista, podrás superar los problemas, por más tiempo y esfuerzo que te tome. Tu actitud, sí, la forma cómo quieras mirar la vida será la forma como la vida se te presente. Depende de ti, únicamente, no de tus amigos, de tu entorno, de los libros que leas, no, depende única y exclusivamente de ti. El mundo se presentará ante ti, tal y como tú quieras.

Por eso es mejor llevar contigo una sonrisa, una palabra amable, un consejo, en lugar de llevar dos piedras en los bolsillos para "defenderte" o para "atacar" y traspasar tus enojos. La vida puede ser hermosa si te decides a vivirla bien, sin rencores, sin resentimientos, sin tristezas, sin odios. Quiero que le prestes mucha atención a este utensilio, te va a ser útil:


El botiquín para vivir
En el botiquín para vivir mejor tienes que llevar un mondadientes(palillo), una liga(caucho), una curita, lápiz, borrador, un chocolate “Kiss” y una bolsa de té instantáneo.
¿Para qué?... veamos: Mondadientes: Para acordarte de "escarbar" en los demás todas las cualidades que tienen.
Liga: Para acordarte de ser flexible, ya que las cosas y las personas no siempre son de la manera como tu quieres que lo sean.
Curita: Para ayudarte a curar aquellos sentimientos heridos, ya sean tuyos o de los demás.
Lápiz: Para que anotes diariamente todas tus bendiciones.
Borrador: Para acordarte que todos cometemos errores, y no pasa nada.
Chicle: Para acordarte de "pegarte" a todo aquello que puedes sacar adelante con tu esfuerzo.
Un chocolate "Kiss": Para que te acuerdes que todo el mundo necesita un beso o un abrazo diariamente.
Y finalmente la bolsa de té: Para que?... pues para tomarte un tiempo, para tomar el té y relajarte pensando en lo mucho que tienes por agradecer, lo mucho que has conseguido.
Espero que te atrevas a llevar este botiquín contigo, verás cómo pueden cambiar las cosas si tú cambias.
Vamos, nada de tristezas, ni rencores, vamos a vivir y a ser felices, a esforzarnos por construir una sociedad mejor para nuestros seres queridos. Tú cuentas conmigo, espero contar contigo también.