like a shining Star

The Museum of Me - anamayala

2011-12-18T01:42:00.000-05:00

The Museum Of Me

(Application by Intel + Facebook )

Video produced with Camtasia

"The Museum of Me is an application that displays information from your Facebook account as viewable "exhibits" in a virtual museum of your very own."

Every Woman Deserves...

2011-12-11T22:36:00.003-05:00

"Every woman deserves a man that calls her baby, kisses her like he means it, holds her tight like he don't want to let go, doesn't make her jealous with other women, instead makes other women jealous of her, is not afraid to let his friends know how he really feels about her, and makes sure she knows how much he loves her".

What else is Love?

2011-11-25T21:28:00.001-05:00

On Uncompleted Tasks...

2011-11-09T21:10:00.004-05:00

"Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task."

~William James~

Shrug. Yeah...

2011-11-06T20:47:00.001-05:00

"To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead."

~Thomas Paine~

30 Signs to Identify True Love

2011-08-04T20:49:00.002-05:00

30 Signs to Identify True Love

By Psychic Agnes of California Psychics.com

Love is a rush of blissful emotions and feelings. It can bring a lifetime’s worth of healing. The tender affection that love does bring has a way of encompassing everything. Every relationship endures highs and lows. That’s just the way that love goes. It takes you away into oblivion and keeps you wanting more. True love is always willing to last forevermore. There are certain things that only love can do. However, if it causes heartbreak and pain, then it may be fooling you. Love is always worth a try, and here are thirty reasons why.

1. You’re comfortable with each other, no matter what others say or do.

2. Plans are made and kept, or the excuse is true.

3. Time is always planned and reserved just for you.

4. Your needs are a top priority over most people and things.

5. Begging or pleading is not required for affection.

6. Family, friends, or work doesn’t compare to you.

7. Love stands up for you anytime there is trouble.

8. Attention and awareness is freely given, and faults are ignored or quickly forgiven.

9. There are no secrets regarding your relationship and it’s good companionship.

10. You’re not left lonely or alone, until your partner decides otherwise.

11. Good surprises, gifts of laughter, and togetherness often arise.

12. You will always be welcomed in your lover’s company.

13. No other lover exists in the mind of your partner. There is no competition.

14. There is constant and consistent contact showing care from each partner.

15. Love is not one-sided. If it is, or feels that way, then it’s likely unrequited.

16. Sharing is open, honest, and without hesitation.

17. Your lover seeks to understand your problems and frustrations.

18. You are worth more than the cost of anything they could buy.

19. There are answers to questions of where, when, how, or why.

20. No one walks away without a plan to return.

21. What your family and friends think does not impact your relationship.

22. You find comfort and clarity in your respective roles, and they feel whole.

23. Love doesn’t need to be chased, as it is easily found.

24. Your lifestyle doesn’t get in the way of a love which has no bounds.

25. It’s easy to forgive, forget, and move on when something goes wrong.

26. You don’t have to buy anything to make someone happy or feel strong.

27. Mind, body, and soul is appreciated and respected.

28. The relationship is worthy of safety and protection

29. There is a deep and profound connection.

30. “I Love You” is easy to say when other words fail or get in the way.

I’ve been in love, and I’ve also been fooled. You’re the only one who can determine what’s happening to you. If you find this list makes sense, then it’s likely love you’ve experienced. There are many things I could add, but most of us can recognize when a relationship is going nowhere or has turned bad. Unrequited love does offer hope, as it gives us the reason and means to cope. There’s someone for everyone, so never allow you hope to come undone. Just when you least expect it, I am certain you’ll find the one. In the meantime, let your mind be at ease. Live your life just as you are pleased. If a love doesn’t work out, then please remember it’s not all that your life it about. Count your blessings each given day. Happily wait until true love finds its way. Dating is an excellent way to practice and play.

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2011-08-03T18:42:00.000-05:00

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Serás Un Truinfador

2011-07-10T23:03:00.007-05:00

("Moment of Silence" by emats)

Serás Un Truinfador...

Cuando el egoísmo no limite tu capacidad de amar. Cuando confíes verdaderamente en ti mismo, aunque todos duden de ti y dejes de preocuparte por el qué dirán. Cuando tus acciones sean tan concisas en duración como largas en resultados. Cuando puedas renunciar a la rutina sin que ello altere el metabolismo de tu vida. Cuando sepas distinguir una sonrisa de una burla, y prefieras la eterna lucha que la compra de la falsa victoria. Cuando actúes por convicción y no por adulación. Cuando puedas ser pobre sin perder tu riqueza y rico sin perder tu humildad. Cuando sepas perdonar tan fácilmente como ahora te disculpas. Cuando puedas caminar junto al pobre sin olvidar que es un hombre y junto al rico sin pensar que es un Dios. Cuando sepas enfrentar tus errores tan fácil y positivamente como tus aciertos. Cuando halles satisfacción compartiendo tu riqueza. Cuando sepas obsequiar con tu silencio a quien no te pide palabras, y tu ausencia a quien no te aprecia. Cuando ya no debas sufrir para conocer la felicidad y no seas capaz de cambiar tus sentimientos y tus metas por el placer terrenal. Cuando no trates de hallar las respuestas en las cosas que te rodean, sino en Dios y en tu propia persona. Cuando aceptes los errores, cuando no pierdas la calma, entonces y sólo entonces… Serás untriunfador.

(Anónimo)

E. T. Katy Perry

2011-06-20T12:57:00.003-05:00

Katy Perry - E.T. ft. Kanye West (Official Music Video) from The Base Studio on Vimeo.

She's my Cherry Pie

2010-10-11T21:01:00.002-05:00

She's my Cherry Pie by star73BC featuring butterfly jewelry

Strawberry Caramel

2010-10-10T18:39:00.003-05:00

Strawberry Caramel by star73BC featuring a leather jacket

La Lune

2010-10-10T16:52:00.003-05:00

La Lune by star73BC featuring military boots

Samsara Nights

2010-10-10T03:19:00.002-05:00

Samsara Nights by star73BC featuring a cropped jacket

My October Blues

2010-10-09T21:59:00.010-05:00

October Blues by littlestar7308 featuring a bradley vera bag

Love is the voice under all silences, the hope which has no opposite in fear; the strength so strong mere force is feebleness: the truth more first than sun, more last than star...

E.E. Cummings

"Knowing is Connection" by Yehuda Berg

2010-09-01T22:39:00.005-05:00

Weekly Tune Up - Monday, August 30 2010

Knowing is Connection

August 29 - Sept 4, 2010

"When Kabbalah addresses astrology, it does so not just to help each individual navigate through his or her personal process but also to help each of us have an appreciation and understanding of other people. When you learn Kabbalistic astrology and get to know all 12 signs, you gain insight into what each of us is going through.

By learning about a person’s sign, we experience greater awareness. If your friend is Aries, you know what to expect. It’s your friend’s nature. It’s not about you. So many times we give up on potential positive things in our life because we forget that the other person has a movie also. We may not see the whole movie and where the person was in his or her past lives, but the little snippet we get adds to our ability to connect with people and to being able to have lasting relationships. It’s a beneficial part of the process.

As my father and teacher Rav Berg always says, knowing is the connection.

In order to make a true connection, we need to let go of our layers and get to our real self. That’s a core part of Kabbalah. When we’ve done that, then we have the possibility of having no agenda, unconditionally giving, experiencing true love and trust. All that comes from a deeper place.

Seeing the bigger picture helps too.

Part of understanding Kabbalistic astrology is also knowing the ins and outs of each month, the ups and downs. That’s the tougher part. Spiritual work is always like that; you have to go through a little pain. And some people have to go through more than a little. Rabbi Shimon spent 13 years in a cave revealing the Zohar. You go through a little pain to get ultimate fulfillment.

This month we are going through a little difficulty, but as heavy as this month might be, there is so much more Light that gets revealed next month. By knowing what’s going on, we can pace ourselves and our energy.

This week let’s all try to get to our real self. Once we get there, we can look forward to experiencing what it means to give and receive unconditionally".

All the best,

Yehuda

Love, Chicken & Stars

2010-08-28T22:36:00.001-05:00

Here. Want some?

Just... Don't.

2010-07-06T23:53:00.005-05:00

"Heart" by Snul @ Deviant Art
http://snul.deviantart.com

Don't smile at me

I might think you like me
Don´t tell me about the things you´re hiding in your pocket
You know how curious I am
Don´t show me the candy you won´t give me
My mouth keeps watering for it
Don´t speak to me in that way
I may confuse your intentions
Don´t try to make me feel better when I'm sad
I might get used to it
Don´t hold me when I´m sleeping
I'm beginning to like it
Don´t show me that face anymore
Haven´t I told you how much I love it?
Just...don't touch my heart in that way
If you really don´t want it.

The Four Agreements ( Don Miguel Ruiz )

2010-06-27T12:03:00.029-05:00

The Four Agreements are very simple, but very profound. To embrace and live each of the Four Agreements is to find yourself experiencing personal freedom--possibly as never before. The Four Agreements are:

Be Impeccable With Your Words

Don't Take Anything Personally

Don't Make Assumptions

Always Do Your Best

From the cover of the book:

Be Impeccable With Your Words: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Don Miguel Ruiz

An interview with Don Miguel Ruiz can be found here at NEXUS, Colorado Holistic, Health and Spirituality Journal

I can't control my destiny....

2010-06-26T22:46:00.005-05:00

"I can't control my destiny, I trust my soul, my only goal is just to be. There's only now, there's only here. Give in to love or live in fear. No other path, no other way. No day but today."

RENT, Johnathan Larson

Love & Violence. (R. D. Laing)

2010-05-24T21:11:00.001-05:00

Love and violence, properly speaking, are polar opposites. Love lets the other be, but with affection and concern. Violence attempts to constrain the other's freedom, to force him to act in the way we desire, but with ultimate lack of concern, with indifference to the other's own existence or destiny.

We are effectively destroying ourselves by violence masquerading as love.

RD Laing ( From The Mystification of Experience in the Politics of Experience)

Locked inside a box

2010-05-23T02:04:00.001-05:00

El amor de los locos ( Rafael Courtoisie)

2010-03-08T22:36:00.009-05:00

Thrive by *IMustBeDead

El amor de los locos
Rafael Courtoisie

Un loco es alguien que está desnudo de la mente. Se ha despojado de sus

ropas invisibles, de esas que hacen que la realidad se vele y se desvíe. Los locos

tienen esa impudicia que deviene fragilidad y, en ocasiones, belleza. Andan solos,

como cualquier desnudo, y con frecuencia también hablan solos (“Quien habla

solo espera hablar con Dios un día”).

Más difícil que abrigar un cuerpo desnudo es abrigar un pensamiento.

Los locos tienen pensamientos que tiritan, pensamientos óseos, duros como la

piedra en torno a la que dan vueltas, como si se mantuvieran atados a ella por

una cadena de hierro de ideas.

El cerebro de un pájaro no pesa más que algunos gramos, y la parte que

modula el canto es de un tamaño mucho menor que una cabeza de alfiler, un

infinitésimo trocillo de tejido, de materia biológica que, con cierto aburrimiento,

los sabios escrutan al microscopio para descifrar de qué manera, en tan exiguo

retazo, está escrita la partitura.

Pero desde mucho antes, y sin necesidad de microscopio ni de tinciones,

el loco sabe que el canto del pájaro es inmenso y pesado, plomo puro que taladra

huesos, que se mete en el sueño, que desfonda cualquier techo y no hay cemento

ni viga que pueda sostener su hartura, su tamaño posible. Por eso algunos locos

despiertan antes de que amanezca y se tapan los oídos con su propia voz, con

voces que sudan de adentro, de la cabeza.

Los pensamientos del loco son carne viva, carne sin piel. En el desierto

del pensamiento del loco el pájaro es un sol implacable. El canto cae como una

luz y un calor que le picara al loco en la carne misma de la desnudez.

Pero la desnudez del loco es íntima: de tanto exhibirla queda dentro. Es

condición interior, pasa desapercibida a las legiones de cuerdos cuya ánima está

cubierta por completo de tela basta, gruesa, trenzada por hilos de la costumbre.

El único instrumento posible para el loco, para defender su desnudez, es

el amor. El amor de los locos es una vestimenta transparente. Esos ojos vidriosos,

ese hilo ambarino que orinan por las noches, ese fragor y ese sentimiento

copioso y múltiple que no alteran las benzodiazepinas, que no disminuye el

Valium, permanecen intactos en el loco por arte del amor.

Es un martillo, y una cuchara, y un punzón. Es todo menos un vestido,

no cubre sino que atraviesa, no mitiga sino que exalta. El amor de los locos tiene

una textura, un porte y una sustancia.

La sustancia se parece al vidrio, pero es el vidrio de una botella rota.

[De Estado Sólido, 1996]

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The love of madmen.

Rafael Courtoisie.

A madman is someone whose mind is naked. He has removed his invisible clothes, those that veil and deviate reality. Those who are crazy possess that smut that transforms into fragility and, in occasions, into beauty. They walk alone, like any naked man, and also frequently they speak alone ("Whoever speaks alone is waiting to speak with God one day").

It is more difficult to wrap up a thought than to wrap up a naked body. Those who are crazy have thoughts that shiver, bony thoughts, hard as the rock to which they spin around, as if they were tied to them by a steel chain of ideas.

The brain of a bird is no heavier than a few grams, and the part that modulates the singing is of a size much smaller than a pinhead, an infinitely small piece of tissue, of biological matter that, with certain boredom, the wise men analyse with a microscope to decipher in which way, there can be a musical score written in such an exiguous remnant.

But for a long time before, and without the need of a microscope or stainings, the madman knows that the singing of the bird is immense and heavy, it's pure lead that drills bones, that gets inside of your dreams, that can knock the bottom out of any ceiling, and there is no cement or beam that can hold its fullness, its possible size. That is why some madmen wake up before the sunrise and they cover their ears with their own voice, with voices that sweat from inside, from the head.

The thoughts of the madman are raw flesh, flesh without skin. In the desert of the madman´s thoughts, the bird is an implacable sun. The song falls like a light and a warmth that bites the madman in the flesh of the nudity itself.

But the nudity of the madman is intimate: it remains inside after being overexposed. It is an interior condition, it passes unnoticed to the legions of the sane men whose souls are completely covered by a rough, thick cloth, weaved by the threads of the habits.

The only possible instrument for the madman, to defend his nudity, is love. The love of madmen is a transparent dress. Those glassy eyes, the amber coloured line that they urinate at nights, that heat, and that copious and multiple feeling that is not altered by benzodiazepines, that is not diminished by Valium, they all remain intact in the madman by the art of love.

It is a hammer, a spoon and a bodkin. Its all but a dress, that doesn't cover but that goes through, that doesn't relieve but exalts. The love of madmen has a texture, a presence, and a substance.

The substance is similar to glass, but it is the glass of a broken bottle.

[From Solid State, 1996]

Only God is enough. by Danny Navarro

2010-03-03T20:45:00.004-05:00

God at DeviantArt by kienzan

If I am free and self-dependent, I must assume first, that the other is too. If I want to establish an affectionate relationship with someone I must do it based on that, and do it from that existential platform. This is, I can´t think that my partner has to be subject to what I think, say and do. The relationship is possible between two free beings who can be happy alone, and that because they can be, they are able to have a relationship. If this is not the case, we would be facing an unhealthy relationship that will make the members unhappy. The other is free and has the right to his/her spaces, to his/ her own explorations, his/her own dreams and to the satisfaction of his/ her needs. Experiences of the total domination of the other and everything that means, or experiences of exaggerated jealousy and the denial of the possibilities of the other are unhealthy and demonstrate that something is not working out well, neither with the one who is the perpetrator or the one who allows them. When the reasons you are with someone are love and decision, there is a common project that both want to build, in which there are commitments of exclusivity and dedication and there is an effort that is made - along with the sacrifices this would imply- to make the other one happy, giving him/ her the best possible experiences. I can be happy alone, its just that I decide that I will be happy with you. I can live on my own means, conquer my happiness and enjoy each moment of the history alone, but, being love the reason, I want to be with you and be happy by your side. I am not giving up anything I am because of you, but I am adding up me to you - in synergy- to live life in fullness. In the equilibrium I love myself to love you. I don't think "I´d die without you" is healthy. Only God is enough. All the rest can exist or not exist.

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Si yo soy libre y autodependiente, debo primero, asumir que el otro también lo es. Si quiero establecer una relación afectiva con una persona, debo hacerlo desde esa base y desde esa plataforma existencial. Esto es, no puedo creer que “mi pareja” tiene que estar sometida a lo que pienso, digo y hago. La relación se da entre seres libres que pueden ser felices solos y, que por poderlo ser, están capacitados para una relación. De lo contrario, estaríamos ante una relación enfermiza, que hará infelices a quienes la entablan. EI otro es libre y tiene derecho a sus espacios, a sus propias búsquedas, a sus sueños y a la satisfacción de sus necesidades. Experiencias de absorción del otro y de todo lo que significa, o experiencias de celos exagerados y de negación de las posibilidades del otro, son insanas y demuestran que algo no está funcionando bien, ni en quien las ocasiona ni en quien las permite. Cuando se está junto a alguien por amor y decisión, existe un proyecto común que se quiere realizar, en el que se hacen unos compromisos de exclusividad y de entrega y se hace el esfuerzo -con los sacrificios que esto signifique- de hacer feliz al otro regalándole las mejores experiencias posibles. Puedo ser feliz solo; sólo que decido serlo contigo. Puedo vivir por mí mismo, conquistar mi felicidad y gozarme cada momento de la historia solo; pero, por amor, quiero estar contigo y ser feliz a tu lado. No estoy abdicando de lo que soy por ti, sino que me estoy sumando a ti -en sinergia- para vivir a plenitud la vida. En el equilibrio me amo para amarte. “Sin ti me muero” no creo que sea sano. Solo Dios basta. Todo lo demás puede estar o no estar.

Danny Navarro.
@ LA PALABRA 10 minutos diarios con Dios.

Saturn in Libra 2009 - 2012 "Why It’s Hell Being a Libra"

2010-02-16T22:02:00.024-05:00

The Libra by subaru01rins @ DeviantArt

Today I found two articles written by Donna Cunningham that I wanted to share here. One of the articles, the first one is published at Sky Writer and the other one is published at Sasstrology.com THE place for the Astrology of Love Sex and Relationships.

Why It’s Hell Being a Libra

"We students of astrology today don’t have a true picture of what the sign Libra is like because most Librans born after 1942 are different from Librans born over the centuries before that. In 1942, the planet Neptune entered Libra and led a parade of the outermost planets—Saturn, Chiron, Uranus and Pluto—through that sign in fairly rapid succession."

Read the full article HERE at Sky Writer

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And the second article, "It´s Hell being a Libra Nowadays" a fable written at Sasstrology.com is the continuation of her post about this hard transit for some of us Libras and the transit of Saturn since October 2009 until 2012. Understanding WHY and WHAT is going on really makes a difference, at least for me.

Read carefully the fabulous articles.

"...Saturn’s reappearance last October made Libra very sad – maybe even clinically depressed. The relentless progression of years, even with the aid of cosmetic surgery, makes it so very hard to look good, and those scanty, frankly sexual modern styles just aren't appropriate on someone Libra’s age."...

Read the full article at Sasstrology.com : " It´s Hell Being a Libra Nowadays!"

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"Donna Cunningham, internationally respected astrologer with over 40 years of experience, is the author of 17 books and thousands of articles on metaphysical topics. You can see Donna's monthly advice column online at Dell Horoscope Magazine and a new excerpt from her books each month atThe MetaArts online metaphysical magazine.

Listed in several Who's Who volumes, she has given seminars on astrology around the world, and her books have been translated into numerous foreign languages. In 1998, she was awarded the prestigious Regulus Award at the United Astrology Congress for her contributions to Theory and Understanding. Donna also has a Master's Degree in Social Work from Columbia University. She uses this combined approach in her "Dear Abby" type column in Dell Horoscope and her ongoing series of articles in The Mountain Astrologer."

Thank you Donna.)

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou

2010-02-13T00:00:00.003-05:00

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size

But when I start to tell them,

They think I'm telling lies.

I say,

It's in the reach of my arms

The span of my hips,

The stride of my step,

The curl of my lips.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.

I say,

It's the fire in my eyes,

And the flash of my teeth,

The swing in my waist,

And the joy in my feet.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can't touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them

They say they still can't see.

I say,

It's in the arch of my back,

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

Now you understand

Just why my head's not bowed.

I don't shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.

When you see me passing

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It's in the click of my heels,

The bend of my hair,

the palm of my hand,

The need of my care,

'Cause I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

Maya Angelou

http://www.poemhunter.com/

Saturn in Cancer Time to limit dependency (among other things)

2010-01-31T23:54:00.005-05:00

(Clouds speed limit by =eXcer @ DeviantArt )

An excerpt from

"Saturn transits Cancer, The Family of Man"

by Nancy R .Fenn I found at www.bemyastrologer.com

Quote:

...."The horror of Saturn in Cancer is that a child who knows nothing is expected to endure with nothing. A child can't build walls to protect itself. That's what the walls of the home are for, the shelter of the father materially and the mother emotionally. What can a child do without these walls? There is an awe-ful vulnerability to Saturn in Cancer. I have seen people with this placement repeat the same mistakes in trusting over and over again, each time opening their arms and hearts as wide as a four year old child to embrace the snake that will bite them. There is an old song, "You knew he was a snake when you took him in." What does Cancer know of snakes when their question will always be, "Why did this snake bite me when I loved it so much and took it home and cared for it so tenderly?"

The reason this is more painful than Saturn in Aries, Taurus or Gemini, other early and "naïve" signs in the wheel, is that Cancer bonds. That is its nature as the first water sign. If the snake bites me in Aries, I will be surprised and furious! I will cut off its head. If it bites me in Taurus, I will hit it over the head with a shovel and throw it away or I will pay someone else to do this for me. If it bites me in Gemini, I will be amazed and curious and talk about it and find out more about it and what other things are dangerous in this world. But if it bites me in Cancer, I will continue to love and care for it though it may bite me again because I bond with all living things and I will be very, very puzzled. Why did it bite me? Was it something I did wrong?

I know that the traditional reading of Saturn is that you are limited in the area concerned but I sometimes believe it is just the opposite. It may be that we have unlimited access to an energy that the world insists must be limited (Saturn). Perhaps our lifework in our charts is to stand against the influence of a cynical and denying world and to pour out this energy from within, from the limitless source we have inside ourselves. Many of the people whose charts I studied did just this. At some level, regardless of stern disapproval by a denying world, they refused to believe that we are not a human family.

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Read more about this here.

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I have Saturn in Cancer. Saturn in Cancer is in detriment. I have Venus in Scorpio. Venus in Scorpio is also in detriment. cool! uh? :S

The part about the snake is so pathetic it´s funny. "But if it bites me in Cancer, I will continue to love and care for it though it may bite me again because I bond with all living things and I will be very, very puzzled. Why did it bite me? Was it something I did wrong?

*sigh*...

Lessons Learned - Step away from self-pity

2010-01-14T12:34:00.006-05:00

Lessons Learned

Step away from self-pity

by M. McMahon
@ California Psychics

We've all helped a friend through a breakup, a fight with their parents, a divorce, a foreclosure ... the list goes on and on. From the outside, it can seem so obvious what lesson is coming, but when it's personal, it's often much more difficult to understand. We feel overwhelmed by our circumstances. It can seem like everyday is a new slap in the face in the forms of painful revelations or unwanted outcomes. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to any of it.

And then the biggie: 'why me?' It's a good question to ask. Why are you being faced with this situation and what can you learn from it? The sooner you can step away from the self-pity and victimization, the faster you can move into an inner serenity that comes from saying, 'I am willing to learn.' Here are some steps to push through to the finish line, so you only have to learn this painful lesson once.

Read more ... Lessons Learned - Step away from self-pity

It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change. ( and Love)

2010-01-01T01:20:00.008-05:00

Lexie: [narrating] Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.

Mark: It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change.

Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime.

Izzie: That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive.

Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much.

Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way.

Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty.

Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it.

Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes.

Callie: And let it go when we can.

Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again.

Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away.

Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five.

Alex: Denial.

Derek: Anger.

Bailey: Bargaining.

Lexie: Depression.

Richard: Acceptance".

(Grey's Anatomy Insider Season 6 episode 2. "Goodbye" )

Thanks Mary

********************

And LOVE...even if it is not unrequited, we grieve. Cause sometimes in our lives even the greatest LOVE ... is not enough.

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2009-12-20T23:27:00.006-05:00

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Pluto in the 12th House. Pain?

2009-12-18T23:10:00.011-05:00

This is an excerpt from Steven Forrest’s “The Book of Pluto”

Steven Forrest is an American Astrological Counselor, Teacher and Writer. His website: Forrest Astrology

Quote:

PLUTO IN THE TWELFTH HOUSE

THE TWELFTH HOUSE ARENA: Spiritual Consciousness; Compassion; Self-Transcendence

THE TWELFTH HOUSE PITS: Suffering; Nihilism; Spiritual Emptiness or Shallowness

IN THE TRADITION...

...the twelfth house is "The House of Troubles." Any planet there would be seen as a source of misfortune — and doubly so if the planet were an inherently "unlucky" one, such as Pluto!

Take heart. We'll present a more uplifting and encouraging perspective on this configuration, but before we do, we must consider an unsettling idea: philosophically, there is an age-old association between spirituality and suffering.

Much illusion must be cleared out of the way before this idea has any relevance to our purposes, but it does contain a kernel of truth. Many of us have observed the phenomenon of a person blossoming into glowing spirituality while battling cancer. That single image provides us with the clue we need: loss, endured consciously and with faith, can be a powerful teacher.

Do we need loss and suffering in order to grow spiritually? That's a delicate question, but one sure insight leaps to awareness: certainly we humans are capable of experiencing spirituality in other, more immediately attractive ways. We might, for example, feel very close to the Great Spirit while opening our hearts to a magnificent landscape, or a transcendentally beautiful piece of music — or to each other, for that matter. Safely we can say that suffering is far from the only path to higher faith.

Still, terrible loss strips us down to spiritual realities faster than anything else. And if Pluto, the planet of much that is frightening in life, lies in your twelfth house, what might that imply?

YOUR HIGH DESTINY

Is it your destiny to suffer more than most of us? If so, than no matter how much spiritual sugar we put on it, you'll probably wind up wishing that you had somebody else's birth chart. Fortunately I can honestly report that I've not observed a particular correlation between this Plutonian configuration and a pattern of catastrophe in the biography.

The best way I know to come to terms with the highest potentials of twelfth house planets in general is to think of them as our "master teachers" — inward spiritual giants that guide us, like kind gurus, into transcendent states of consciousness. Each planetary master teacher promotes in you a certain class of experience or perception which is customized to trigger evolutionary leaps. If you had Venus there, for example, experiences of human love or aesthetic rapture might be the ticket.

But what about Pluto? Here's the planet of Evil and Catastrophe. Does your inner teacher want you to suffer? Or, even more incomprehensibly, to become a nasty person? Not at all. Your inner teacher's goal is far simpler to say: the teacher wants you to deepen your compassion.

Your High Destiny lies in becoming one of those beings on the earth whose mere existence is reminder to the rest of us that, when the day is done, compassion is the purest, noblest spiritual attainment available to any human being.

And how do we learn compassion? By opening our hearts to suffering. Whose suffering? Does it have to be our own? From the human perspective, that question is pressing one. But our urgency in asking it would probably make the angels smile. And their answer, I believe, would be that it doesn't matter whose suffering you're considering. Whether it's yours or that of another being, either way compassion is the highest response that might be invoked.

YOUR DISTORTING WOUND

Imagine you've got a friend who carries a lot of political intensity in her character. She wants you to see a film with her tonight; it's about the gruesome use of torture by the corrupt regime in Wazoowazooland. The situation there is real; forces of sadism and destruction are rampaging, and you really do feel compassion for the people. But the film is heavy-handed. Close-ups of mutilation are punctuated only by close-ups of teary faces. And it goes on and on. For the first fifteen minutes, you are dumbstruck with a mixture of horror and righteous indignation: the very emotions the film-maker set out to invoke. But after a while, you're simply wishing it would be over. Forty-five minutes into the film, you find yourself surreptitiously stealing a glance at your watch. When finally the credits roll, you have been emotionally bludgeoned. You feel numbness, and little else except a profound aversion to hearing ever again of Wazoowazooland or its hapless inhabitants.

The next day at work, someone approaches you with a look of naughty mirth. "Did you hear the one about ...' It's a bad joke, a sick joke, about torture. And you laugh until tears run down your cheeks.

You needed the relief. Subliminally, the film was still with you. It is a psychological commonplace that humor is mostly about dealing with the unthinkable. Most jokes are humanity's way of coping with the darker realities of existence: death, old age, illness, infidelity, sexual problems, catastrophe, accident. And there is no shortage of any of those sources of pain in this world; they abound. Life can sometimes be a little too much like that film about Wazoowazooland.

With Pluto in the twelfth house, you were born with a unique psychic attunement to suffering. Were the world a softer, more gentle place, in your youth, you might have sat beneath the Bodhi Tree, so to speak, and simply entered into a kind of compassionate meditation. But instead what happened was that you were flooded, overwhelmed with the psychic shrieking, whimpering, and wailing of embodied life-forms. And you shut down, at least partly. You had to.

This Plutonian configuration is distinct from the others in that the Wound connected with it can arise in the psyche independent of any particular "wounding event" in the youthful or karmic biography. Nobody had to hurt you personally, in other words, in order for you to be hurt by the synchronous howling of all the loneliness, sorrow, and pain on the planet.

Still, wounding biographical events do have some relevance here. We may find stories of direct exposure to intimate catastrophe in the early life: grandma lives in the family home and endures a long, stretched-out cancer death. What does that atmosphere mean to the child developing in it? Perhaps there is the loss of parent to death, to madness or via abandonment. Maybe a sibling is seriously ill. Perhaps violence touches the home, or the early life.

Whatever the outward story, the real Wound arises not so much from the direct reality of the painful event — as we've seen you're psychically wired to deal with that dimension of life quite satisfactorily — but rather from the impact of other people's adaptations to the difficulty. The child who, for example, sees mom grow hard, unreachable, and steely in the face of sister's leukemia ...he or she internalizes that model. The boy whose dad is full of bitter, black-humorous jokes as a defense against his own tears ...what does that boy learn about manhood?

It would be dishonest to leave this territory without making reference to our numbed-out, violence-mad culture. A child with Pluto in the twelfth house will be seated in front of the TV with the rest of his or her peers, learning to laugh and cheer at bludgeoning, maiming, and murder. We have grown appallingly anaesthetized to the suffering of others; this is the opposite of compassion, and thus, to the extent that you internalized it, this attitude itself is part of your wound.

YOUR NAVIGATIONAL ERROR

Little could be more natural or more instinctual than the avoidance of suffering. We approach pleasure; we retreat from pain. You, me, and a paramecium wiggling on a microscope slide: we all hold that pair of reflexes in common.

And compassion is pain. It may be more than pain; it has subtlety, even nuances of bliss in it. But primarily, overwhelmingly, it hurts to let ourselves feel the hurt of another. To open ourselves to the ache of grief or the ragged edge of fear in another creature is to welcome that energy into ourselves. To make it our own.

Let's be sure that we are speaking the same language here: I am not talking about abstract concern for "world hunger" or "abused children," as laudable as those sentiments may be. What I am talking about is the look in the eye of the panhandler who stops you on the street wanting your spare change. He's human, and he hurts. He presumably hates his situation, whatever his own responsibility for it may be. He likely hates you too, for that matter. Maybe you give him a few coins. But can you give him a moment of eye-contact? A little empathy? Can you stand it?

I don't mean to sound preachy here. And let me hasten to add that most days I can't live up to the standard I'm describing. But what I am depicting is real compassion, and it's an extremely difficult attitude to maintain.

Your Navigational Error lies in slipping too far away from that compassion. The point is that, while you're naturally inclined to feel it, the sheer unpleasantness of the emotion might incline you to shut it down. Maybe you do that by taking refuge in normalcy: give the bum a couple of dimes maybe, then get away fast before he says anything. Maybe you hide in cynicism or nihilism — a real trap with Pluto in the twelfth house. Perhaps humor is your refuge, a kind of black humor that thrives on jokes about grievous loss.

Down that road lurks disaster — and not only because of the evolutionary opportunity which is lost. When Pluto is forced out of consciousness, it tends to express itself biographically. If Pluto's effects are not about your consciousness, they'll manifest in your story, in other words. The point here is a fierce one: if you are hesitant to open up to compassion regarding other people, you increase the probability that you'll sooner or later have ample inspiration to feel compassion toward yourself.

THE HEALING METHOD

Of all houses, the twelfth is the most transcendent — which is to say that of all of them, it has the least direct connection to the visible world. Extraordinary events can take place in that part of being and produce not even a ripple in your outward life. The point is that your healing method here is not so much something that you must do as it is something you must become.

Meditation is the heart of the matter. But meditation is a word that is easily misunderstood. Astrology, if it is anything at all, is a celebration of human individuality. Were I to espouse any particular religious or philosophical position here, I'd be doing a disservice to you, to myself, and to the spirit of what's best in astrology. If my word "meditation" translates best for you as "prayer" or even as "concentration," that's fine.

What I am speaking of is the highly focused and sustained visualization of an image in the mind. The more three-dimensionally "real" the object of the meditation becomes, the more powerful is the healing experience. And for our purposes we must add two more layers: the emotions must be engaged with the image; it must be felt as much as seen. And the image must be one that fills the heart with compassion.

Christians may image Jesus on the cross. Buddhists may see Gautama vowing to serve the world until all beings are liberated. Anyone might image a child, a fawn, a kitten.....young things in their innocence and defenselessness often fill us with compassion. We might visualize a friend who is going through something painful, and let his or her psychic reality into our hearts. And if you want your Pluto-in-the-twelfth-house PhD., maybe you should try visualizing a someone you find antagonistic or unpleasant in that same compassionate light.

The inner work is the real work in the twelfth house; everything else is less important, and tends to follow naturally. Once you have recovered your native capacity to feel compassion, there often arises a strong desire to address suffering in the outer world. In practical astrology, it is not unusual to find people with Pluto in the twelfth house working in hospitals, or prisons, or shelters, or asylums — places where human suffering is at a crescendo. But to frame such work, however noble, as the Healing Method, would be misleading. It is not the healing method; it is only a typical side-effect of the deeper opening of the heart.

THE ENERGIZING VISION

Rightfully we revere our scientists, the artists who make our hearts soar, the comedians who give us laughter, the healers who bind our wounds. But we always reserve a special place for the ones we call "saints" — the compassionate ones who love us wholly and utterly. Sometimes those saints undertake extraordinary feats of service and incidentally garner a lot of attention; Mother Theresa leaps to mind. Others live more quietly, and attract less notice. But even without much prospect for film bios and pilgrimages after they're dead, these saints are precious nonetheless. I believe I've seen such beings once or twice in toll booths on highways, recognized them in a split second of eye contact, and was a quarter-mile down the road before I even knew what had happened.

"Saint" may not be the word you'd naturally use here; somehow "Good Person" just isn't strong enough verbal medicine though, so I'm going to stick with saint. My only regret in using the word is that the churches of every stripe have told a terrible lie over the centuries; they've made saints seem much rarer than they really are, so I seem to be invoking something very exotic when in fact I am not. We've all known a saint or two; life just seems to be set up that way. Caring and support radiate from such people; we turn to them naturally when our burdens are heavy, when we need someone to affirm our basic worth and goodness, despite our guilt, our confusion, our frustration. They don't pity us; that emotion is far colder and more distant than what they radiate. Whatever we may feel inside ourselves, they have felt it too — however dark or abased it may be.

Thus, we expose another lie the churches tell: these saints are utterly human, and utterly accepting of their humanness. What distinguishes them is only the extent to which they have opened to their own humanity. And that openness empowers them to open equally to your humanity or to mine.

To say that with your twelfth house Pluto, you have the chart of a saint — even in the milder, broader definition of the word I am advocating here — would be misleading. There is really no such thing as the "chart of a saint." The cockroach born under the manger had Christ's chart. Sainthood refers to an attainment; a chart refers only to potentials, and read accurately, it describes dark potentials as well as bright ones.

It is more accurate to say that in this lifetime you have the opportunity to attain that level of compassionate engagement which I am characterizing as "sainthood," and to touch people's lives in that intimate, inspiring way. That is your High Destiny, and reaching it is in no way automatic. As we have seen, there are other roads you could go down.

But this high solitary road, maybe the highest road of all, is now open to you, if you choose to travel it.

More about Pluto here.

Purple Rocker Bride

2009-12-17T20:22:00.013-05:00

A very creative wedding invitation....

A purple themed wedding...

And a non conventional bride!

Purple rocker bride by littlestar7308 featuring Judith Jack jewelry

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Friday purple

2009-12-17T14:37:00.006-05:00

Friday purple by littlestar7308 featuring FOSSIL bags

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A Christmas Eve look . December 2009

2009-12-17T11:16:00.000-05:00

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In fact, I´m fabulous!

2009-12-14T22:00:00.010-05:00

Image courtesy of PostSecret

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Pink O Rama . chic pink style

2009-12-13T23:04:00.006-05:00

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Aaja Nachle. Bollywood dance

2009-11-14T21:36:00.013-05:00

My Bollywood dance, and other Oriental dance lessons will start soon. I can´t wait!

I watch this zillions of times and I just want to dance and sing. The music and dresses, the scenery, the dancers, the colours are so beautiful and the fabulous choreography was arranged by Bollywood dance choreographer Vaibhavi Merchant .

Aaja Nachle.

"Aaja Nachle (Hindi:आजा नचले English: Come Let's Dance) is a 2007 Bollywood film. It was released in India and in the United States on 30 November 2007. The film stars Madhuri Dixit in her first film after six years, alongside Akshaye Khanna, Konkona Sen Sharma, and Kunal Kapoor in pivotal roles."

Maybe some day I´ll be able to dance like this! :)

YA NO. Idea Vilariño

2009-10-30T12:11:00.010-05:00

YA NO

( No longer)

Ya no será

( it will no longer be)

ya no

( no longer)

no viviremos juntos

( we won´t live together)

no criaré a tu hijo

(I won´t raise your son)

no coseré tu ropa

( I wont sew your clothes)

no te tendré de noche

( I won´t have you at nights)

no te besaré al irme

( I won´t kiss you when I leave home)

nunca sabrás quién fui

( you´ll never know who I was)

por qué me amaron otros.

( why other men loved me)

No llegaré a saber

( I will never know)

por qué, ni cómo, nunca

( why or how, never)

ni si era de verdad

( or if it was true)

lo que dijiste que era

( what you said it was)

ni quién fuiste

( or who you were)

ni qué fui para ti

( or what I was for you)

ni cómo hubiera sido

( or how it would have been)

vivir juntos

(to live together)

querernos

(to love each other)

esperarnos

(to wait for each other)

estar.

( to be together)

Ya no soy más que yo

( I am no longer more than I)

para siempre

( for ever)

y tú ya no serás para mí

( and you will no longer be for me)

más que tú.

( more than you)

Ya no estás

( you are not)

en un día futuro

( in a future day anymore)

no sabré dónde vives,

( I won´t know where you live)

con quién,

( with whom)

ni si te acuerdas.

( or if you remember)

No me abrazarás nunca

( You will never hold me)

como esa noche

( like you did that night)

nunca.

( never)

No volveré a tocarte.

( I will not touch you again)

No te veré morir

( I won´t watch you die)

Idea Vilariño

Poetisa, ensayista y crítica literaria

Montevideo, Uruguay

18 Ag 1920 - 28 Abril 2009

Everyone wears some kind of mask...

2009-10-22T20:27:00.002-05:00

Who's Gonna Save My Soul

2009-10-06T20:37:00.001-05:00

Walking on egg shells !

2009-10-03T20:39:00.001-05:00

Walking on egg shells !

Author: Dorothy Lafrinere

Walking on egg shells! Has anyone ever told you, that's how they feel around you? If they have, it's a huge red flag and one that should not be ignored. It needs to be dealt with immediately.

Relationships are a tough challenging part of our lives. Especially when dealing with matters of the heart. As truly good as they make you feel, they can in turn tear you apart from the inside in a heartbeat. When the red flags start to rise up, that's when your relationship is crying out for help. You need to address it, as if a baby was crying out to you.

When someone says they feel like they are walking on egg shells, what is that telling you? It's telling you :

that they can no longer be themselves in your presence.

that they fear your reaction whenever they speak.

that they are stuck, that they cannot move in either direction, for fear of upsetting you.

It is also telling you that they need to stop this feeling that is tearing them apart.

Many of us are guilty for causing these prison bars that surround our loved ones.

We do not even realize that our own fears are doing this to them. We are so caught up in ourselves that we are blind to the world that we have created for them.

Through our own fears we hear what they say in all the wrong languages. We interpret them through our weaknesses and turn what they say all upside down.

Some of us react irrationally, forcing our partner to either take cover and hide or even worse become irrational themselves. This is when we both become deaf and blind. When the relationship war begins, there are no winners, only victims. What once was love, kisses and smiles has turned into an ugly vicious battle ground of snarls, hate, and searching for the lowest hit we can aim for. Wow, how does this happen so fast? We as humans are notorious for ruining so many very good things out of pure bad habits.

No one wants to lose or be the one saying, "I am sorry" every five minutes, nor should a real relationship become a win/lose situation either. Who wants to walk on egg shells? Then again, no one wants to have to defend their every breathe to someone they thought loved them unconditionally and are committed to. Walking on egg shells sucks!

If we cannot be ourselves with the one we love, then who can we be that with? This is not to say that a person should disrespect the other. When you know that something troubles the other person or makes them feel truly uncomfortable, it should go without saying that it is just not done. That is true respect. Why would you want to do something to hurt your best friend or even make your loved one feel out of place?

In new relationships it does take time to get things organized as in any new situation. Moving into a new house, a new job, having a baby, or even planning a trip, we have to reorganize to accommodate our now lives. Committing to another person is just the beginning of the book. It is just the title. Now you have to write the story and yes, make a few corrections along the way on both parts, but the trick is to constantly compare each others notes. Remember this: staying on the same page is what your relationship is all about.

When we make a commitment to another person through love, we are taking on a responsibility to share our love and life with that person. We are silently telling them that we are now going to take in consideration their feelings as well as our own.

Your once single-self life has now become a two-self life. This does not mean that you stop breathing and living. It just means that you are now sharing your life with this chosen person. It opens up a whole new world of respect. Remember also that you cannot gain respect if you do not offer respect. Life becomes a definite two-way street when two hearts are involved. There are also two minds working in this relationship now; two minds that are of opposite genders, two minds that will collide now and then. This is not a bad thing. We need to have differences to add spice to our lives.

Be very careful of starting the "Poor Me", habit. This is another relationship red flag to watch for. Remember, walking on egg shells? If one partner becomes so caught up in their own worries and fails to share this with their partner, it will sneak in between you both and begin to build a very strong wall of negative habits. If you have read any of my other articles, you will know these negative habits well, jealousy, mistrust, low self-esteem and total loneliness.

When your partner begins to feel they are slipping away from you, grab on and do not for a minute take that red flag for granted. Listen hard to their worries and love them more, not necessarily better. Just show more of your love. If they keep slipping away, then there is either nothing left to save or they need help outside of your relationship.

It is so important to know your partner. Only then can you realize when they are in trouble. Do not allow your relationship to become the wallpaper in your house. No one wants to be a wallflower. No one with any self-respect that is.

Another great phrase I hear all the time is, "Door Mat syndrome". Oh this is a very bad thing for couples to allow to take hold of their relationship. In many cases one partner has taken hold of it and falls into a control habit. This is something that plagues many relationships. When does one partner become the owner? I will use that word because it shows possession and control. This happens because it can. Some one has allowed this ownership to take place. STOP allowing this, please. A partnership, relationship, commitment, whatever you want to call it, is an EQUAL understanding of respect and love. There are no owners and no bosses. No one is above the other. Man should respect woman and vice-verse. This is a must in order to make a relationship strong enough to not allow negative habits any control.

When there are no negative habits, there is no walking on eggshells. How much more simpler can it get. We are an intelligent species, so let us act intelligent when we decide to commit to another person. This is two lives we are dealing with here, not just another Hollywood movie. We are all going to age and all of us are going to notice our body parts going south. Guess what, no one is above that law. When you have found a true love, and are willing to invest your life with that person, please do not allow material things or negative fantasy ideals to come between you. It really is not worth it.

When you feel unsure of something ,or you feel negative emotions taking control of your mind, reach out to your partner. Don't walk on egg shells. Do not turn it into a war against your partner. Use all of your love to fight the negative relationship habits. Love is worth it. We all have our good and bad days. Some have more than others. So when it's a good day, then make it a really good day. Those are always remembered the longest. Don't walk on egg shells. We have to love ourselves first, then and only then can we love another!

Tell each other often what you saw in each other, what you see now.

Being reminded why we are "The One" helps us to act that way.

-Toni Sciarra Poynter

Dorothy Lafrinere

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The real work on love

2009-09-19T12:51:00.010-05:00

"When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is! "

I need to say something about this. Yes, Love is what is left over. When the "real" work has to be done.Let´s say that each person you meet, or a relationship you have is a piece of arable land where you see a possibility to cultivate something. At a certain stage in our lives, we already know what we´d want to have in a piece of land. Through all our lives we can visit many pieces of land, or just a few, while we find the one we really like, and when we find the one we like and want, we spend some time looking at its beauty admiring its quality, imagining how what we could cultivate would look at the end, or imagining how the house we´d like to live in would be. How it would be distributed and organised and we have an ideal of the piece of land we´d want to have. We are happy and go every day to see it and make plans for what we want to have there. We tell people how happy we are because we found " the piece of land we´ve always wanted".

We can do many things to "get" this piece of land for us. We go there, see the land, we go during the day, and we see that it´s beautiful, we go in the nights and we see that it´s beautiful. And after a period of time, when we see the land in detail, we see that it´s got some flaws, like the big trees near the river, because we´d want them to be smaller so we could have a better view for example... but of course we know that there is not a "perfect or flawless" piece of land, that most of the pieces of land have both beautiful and not so beautiful things, and we still like it and want it as a "whole", because there are more things that we like and a few we don´t. So we know it´s worth to have that piece of land we like so much.

So we want it and we like it, fine! That´s a first step. But sometimes when we finally have it and we see that there is work to do, we say, uhm... maybe I don´t want to work on it. And say, "oh well, I´ll just get another piece of land where I don´t have to work a lot, I´m kind of tired of working in my projects and I don´t have time for an " extra work", I´ll just get another one.

What we seldom keep in mind is that there is work to do in any piece of land that we get. But also we have to bear in mind that there really is the perfect piece of land for us. The one we´ll work on with all our effort and all our heart and the one that will give us the satisfaction we want.

There is not a magical fertilizer that works every day for us or a magical machine that will relieve us from what we need to do. For the crops to be able to grow, we first have to work on the soil. Then sow the seeds, put water on them frequently, find good minerals and fertilizers. We must take out the unwanted plants continuously. We must find the materials for the house and build it step by step. If we really want to have a beautiful piece of land, we must work on it. As any other farmer would. Also the results can not be seen in one week. The seeds need time to grow.

Some of us might never get to see the fulfilling results of what our work could give, because we give up on each piece of land we get when we see "how much effort, work, perseverance and patience has to be put". Or because we think that there is a piece of land that will not require much effort or work. But we still long for a " beautiful piece of land"...

I think I finally understood how much effort, work, perseverance, passion and patience has to be put in order to Love somebody take care and mantain a relationship. What my part of the work would be. I know it will be fun sometimes it will be the opposite others... but it is work what has to be done. Action that has to be taken. It is a day to day effort that surely will give the results. I´m not a quitter and I am not lazy. So I believe I have reached the next step.

October 2008

The Ghosts of Girlfriends Past (another romantic comedy for saturday night with pop corn and coca cola)

2009-09-19T12:44:00.003-05:00

GHOSTS OF GIRLFRIENDS PAST is an amusingly sentimental whiff of a romantic comedy… There is an actual cautionary tale here.”

—Betsy Sharkey (Los Angeles Times)

"Connor Mead is the kind of guy who dumps three girlfriends. At the same time. By teleconference. So when he attends his brother’s wedding he has a single goal: score with the only bridesmaid he somehow missed. But the ghost of his departed Uncle Wayne –who taught him to love ’em and leave ’em – has another goal in mind: restore Connor’s lost faith in true love, a tough assignment requiring the services of many, many Ghosts of Girlfriends Past. Matthew McConaughey, Jennifer Garner and Michael Douglas and director Mark Waters (Mean Girls, Just Like Heaven) uncork a romantic romp as bubbly as wedding-toast champagne. It’s the perfect comedy for anyone who believes in laughs and love. Or needs to."

WATCH FULL MOVIE HERE

Astrology on the Web: Eclipses

2009-09-16T00:43:00.002-05:00

Astrology on the Web: Eclipses

VERY Interesting!!

One week in Boyacá, Colombia

2009-09-06T14:55:00.004-05:00

My house in Tuta, Boyacá (Colombia)

Seduce and Destroy á la Magnolia . very memorable quotes.

2009-08-08T14:48:00.019-05:00

...He forgot to say though, that following the manual would make most surely a *man* win the sweet little panties of a woman, guaranteed, but that also following his *seduce and destroy* manual would make a *man* win her heart, her soul, her love her trust. She will definitely open her heart to him. She´ll tell him her secrets. She´ll love him. Truly and deeply. And what for? to add up another easily won game to a list where women are labeled according to some *this and that* charachteristics.*sigh*. A soul, a heart, can not be labeled.

And yeah well.. it´s only a movie right?, only a character on a movie. Funny to know that those *rules* are actually followed and played on real life, on very cruel games, where people, human relations, Respect,Trust, Friendship and Love are absolutely mocked, disrespected, betrayed, deceived, where a relationship with a woman is taken as a marketing campaign and where the only one who wins is the *happy* player of the game. Ah, and then the woman gets to be called a *crazy bitch* or maybe a *chump* or another nice adjective. Where the value of a Woman, of Friendship, of Love is thrown down the toilette. Where serious promises are made and then broken, and are just used as *connectors* to the next steps in a game, but are never meant to be fulfilled. Dreams and plans (all shattered of course), proposals made (uh?), a myriad of lies, broken promises, very cruel, unfair and harsh words ...games. And the woman , nor the relationship or whatever she gives never means anything.

I may be too old fashioned in that sense, but I still believe and value Trust, Friendship, Love, and having a relationship with a man will never be something that would be acquired through the rules of a manual and, needless to say, it will not be played as a game. Love is NOT a game. And people´s lives and feelings aren´t either.

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Frank is speaking to followers at his seminar...

( random parts of his *manual*)

... In this big game that we play, life, it's not what you hope for, it's not what you deserve, it's what you take. I'm Frank T.J. Mackey, a master of the muffin and author of the Seduce and Destroy system now available to you on video and audio cassette. Seduce and Destroy will teach you the techniques to have any hardbody blonde just dripping to wet your dock. Bottom line? Language. The magical key to unlocking the female analytical mindset. Tap directly into her hopes, her wants, her fears, her desires, and her sweet little panties. Learn how to make that lady "friend" your sex-starved servant. I don't care how you look. I don't care what car you drive. I don't care what your last bank statement says. Seduce and Destroy produces an instant money-back guarantee trance-like state that will get you this - naughty sauce you want fast. Hey - how many more times do you need to hear the all-too-famous line of 'I just don't feel that way about you?'

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Respect the cock! And tame the cunt! Tame it! Take it on headfirst with the skills that I will teach you at work and say no! You will not control me! No! You will not take my soul! No! You will not win this game! Because it's a game, guys. You want to think it's not, huh? You want to think it's not? Go back to the schoolyard and you have that crush on big-titted Mary Jane. Respect the cock. You are embedding this thought. I am the one who's in charge. I am the one who says yes! No! Now! Here! Because it's universal, man. It is evolutional. It is anthropological. It is biological. It is animal. We... are... men!

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Welcome back. Back from break.Men are shit. What? Men... are... *shit*. What, isn't that what they say? Because we do bad things, don't we? We do horrible, heineous, *heinous*, terrible things. Things that no woman would ever do. No, women, they don't lie. No, women don't cheat. Women don't *manipulate* us. But you see what I'm getting at. You see what society does? Little boys, it's, "Wow, womaaaan!" We are taught to apologize. I am sorry. I am so sorry, baby. I am so sorry. What is it that we need? Is it their pussies? Their love? Mommy wouldn't let me play soccer... and Daddy, he hit me, so that's who I am, that's why I do what I do? Fucking bullshit. I will not apologize for who I am. I will not apologize for what I need. I will not apologize for what I *want*!

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I hope you guys stayed away from those little nacho bits I saw out there... I know...I know...hey, you're not payin' for the snacks...

"How To Fake Like You Are Nice and Caring." This is...obviously...quite an important section...I mean, let's face it...face the facts...Men Are Shit, right? I mean,that is what they all say. We've all done bad things...bad things that no woman has ever done...that's what they say. We As Men are taught to apologize: "I've done wrong." "I'm sorry." "My needs as a man made me..." Something, something...bullshit....well what I would like to say...

If you feel, made to feel like you need them, like -- like you can't live if you're without them or you need, what? They're pussy? They're love? Fuck that. Self Sufficient, gents. That's the truth. What you are -- we are -- you need them for what? To fucking make you a piece of snot rag? A puppett? huh? Hear them bitch and moan? bitch and moan -- and we're taught one thing -- go the other way -- there is No Excuse I will give you, I'm not gonna apologize -- I'm not gonna apologize for my NEED my DESIRE...my, the things that I need as a man to feel comfortable... You understand? You understand? You need to say something, "my mommy hit me or daddy hit me or didn't let me play soccer, so now I make mistakes, cause a that -- something,so now I piss and shit on it and do this." Bullshit. I'm sorry. ok. yeah. no. fuck. go. fuck. alright. go make a new mistake. maybe not, I dunno...fuck....

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Little Denise, I say this: I mark it up and I write it down and you've been warned: "By the end of May, you will know I'm not gay." "On the fourth of June, Denise, you're gonna be lickin' my spoon." "And Come August, You Suck My Big Fat Sausage." I've SET GOALS FOR MYSELF. And what? I've said "enough is enough." Because why? She's not gonna be your pal. She's not gonna be your friend. You think she's gonna be there for you the second you need something? Think again - this fuckin' bitch Denise!But: Listen up: That is not to say that we don't all need women as friends, 'cause we're gonna learn later on in Chapter 23 that having a couple of chick-friends laying around can come in real handy in setting Jealousy Traps. But we'll get to that. Number One (this is page 18 in your booklets, blue cover - go to it and

follow along with me.)

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Frank T.J. Mackey: Do you think they're your friends? They're not your friends. Do you really think she'll be there when things go bad? Huh? When things go wrong? You think again. !

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I can't believe I'm telling you guys this, but the truly terrifying part is that: THIS WORKS. Any girl that calls herself your friend is not gonna let you be alone in a situation like that. Technique #2: Staging a fight. This is not knock down, drag out, crying screaming, yelling -- this is a simple, direct and subtle way of planting confusion into a girl's mind. Remember we are using reinforcement technique "G" with these women.

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Let her wonder what she did wrong.

This is the way...because they will always wonder, "What did I do?", "What could I have done different?", "How should I behave to get this back?" . And if they think that way -- then they are asking for you to hurt them and That Is What You Must Do. That is what you must do which is punish them many, many times over.

Come away with me in the night...

2009-08-04T05:17:00.002-05:00

*The Kiss* , Gustav Klimt

Come away with me in the night

Come away with me

And I will write you a song

Come away with me on a bus

Come away where they can't tempt us

With their lies

I want to walk with you

On a cloudy day

In fields where the yellow grass grows knee-high

So won't you try to come

Come away with me and we'll kiss

On a mountaintop

Come away with me

And I'll never stop loving you

And I want to wake up with the rain

Falling on a tin roof

While I'm safe there in your arms

So all I ask is for you

To come away with me in the night

Come away with me

Do, do you know how to patch up a wound? it´s a really bad wound...

2009-07-26T00:11:00.005-05:00

Do, do you got a first aid kit handy?

Do, do you know how to patch up a wound? Tell me

Are, are, are you, are you patient, understanding?

Cause I might need some time

to clear the hole in my heart and I

I tried every remedy and nothing seems to work for me

Baby, baby this situation´s driving me crazy

And I really wanna be your lady

But the one before you left me so

Damaged, damaged, damaged, damaged

I thought that I should let you know

That my heart is damaged, damaged,

so damaged, so damaged

And you can blame the one before...

Strange love

2009-07-11T21:55:00.007-05:00

thienbao.deviantart.com

There'll be times
When my crimes
Will seem almost unforgivable
I give in to sin
Because you have to make this life liveable
But when you think I've had enough
From your sea of love
I'll take more than another riverfull
Yes, and I'll make it all worthwhile
I'll make your heart smile

Strangelove
Strange highs and strange lows
Strangelove
That's how my love goes
Strangelove
Will you give it to me
Will you take the pain
I will give to you
Again and again
And will you return it

There'll be days
When I'll stray
I may appear to be
Constantly out of reach
I give in to sin
Because I like to practice what I preach
I'm not trying to say
I'll have it all my way
I'm always willing to learn
When you've got something to teach
And I'll make it all worthwhile
I'll make your heart smile

Pain will you return it
I'll say it again -- pain
Pain will you return it
I'll say it again -- pain

Pain will you return it
I'll say it again -- pain
Pain will you return it
I won't say it again

Strangelove
Strange highs and strange lows
Strangelove
That's how my love goes
Strangelove
Will you give it to me

Strangelove
Strange highs and strange lows
Strangelove
That's how my love goes
Strangelove
Will you give it to me

Strangelove
Strange highs and strange lows
Strangelove
That's how my love goes
Strangelove
Will you give it to me

I give in
Again and again
I give in
Will you give it to me
I give in
I'll say it again
I give in

I give in
Again and again
I give in
That's how my love goes
I give in
I'll say it again
I give in

Strange world

2009-07-01T19:18:00.005-05:00

...

Strange world

people talk sometimes I wonder why

Strange world

people kill still no-one hears their cries

Strange world

burn these thoughtless tears out of my eyes, eyes

Strange world

people talk and tell only lies

Strange world

people kill an eye for an eye

Strange world

dream one-day we'll see the light, ahh, ahh

Strange world

people kill and people hate

and
People talk and people kill

and still I wonder wonder why, why

Another Angel for heaven´s population.

2009-06-20T13:47:00.014-05:00

I seem to feel the bad things in advance, and another *bad thing* happened today. Death came back again, this time to accompany my lovely cousin Diana to heaven. At 24 years old ,wasn´t it too soon for her to go there?. So many hopes and dreams...but only God knows why He wanted to have her with Him in heaven before her plans and wishes were accomplished. Now she´s happy, and we are very very sad, with pain and sorrow and a big hole in the heart that won´t be filled, as it happens when beloved ones leave us.

I think that she is now in a place where there´s only Love and Light and that she´s just entered heaven to be another member of the Army of Angels. I pray for her soul to be in the presence of God. And I´m sure that just as she was a beautiful soul and a lovely person, she had VIP tickets to get inside the place where she is now.

Another sweet Angel for heaven´s population. And maybe I never told her, but I loved her very much. I guess she now knows I did. But when things like this happen I can´t stop thinking why the people who want to live and have a beautiful life and a promising future and have hope and faith, and are happy, and want to do things die, and those who don´t wish to live just have to be here.

Signs.

2009-05-31T20:25:00.006-05:00

Neptune retrograde. Time to crack your denial!

2009-05-27T01:23:00.002-05:00

by Cortney Litwin
Source: California Psychics

If you've been hiding your head in the sand about something in your life, retrograde Neptune can shine a light on your issue so you can see things clearly. Yes, we know - Neptune is the planet of illusion, dreams, drugs and denial. So how will it help your clarity?

From May 28 - November 4, 2009, Neptune's retrograde motion will heighten your sensitivity to issues that have been hiding under the surface of your consciousness. During its yearly retrograde period, Neptune has the power to sweep away the psychic fog that keeps you in the dark. So over the next five months, you may discover an issue that keeps you from growing, or a long-lost dream that you need to explore.

Your inner world
At first, however, you may feel baffled by the emergence of something hidden (or semi-hidden) that's suddenly in your face. It's important to get in touch with any new feelings that arise. You don't want to slam the door on your newfound awareness. Take some time to analyze what's happening with you. Ask yourself if it's something positive that you need to act on, or something negative that you need to eliminate from your life. Then take some steps to deal with it.

If you choose denial over awareness, a backlash may occur after Neptune turns direct in the fall. Disillusionment or a vague sense of dissatisfaction can be the repercussions of ignoring Neptunian lessons. Whatever is stuck in your psyche will affect you, one way or another.

Psychic sponge syndrome
Retrograde Neptune can also make you exceedingly sensitive to the feelings of others, especially people you're close to. As such, you need good emotional boundaries so you don't take on someone else's negativity. If you suddenly feel depleted or confused, and nothing obvious has happened to make you feel that way, look to see if someone in your vicinity is feeling out of sorts. Then do something to get rid of the bad vibes, like a calming meditation or a stroll through the park - whatever makes you feel more centered. Needless to say, avoid negative people whenever possible.

Drugs and denial
Because Neptune rules mood-altering substances, beware of overindulging in drugs and alcohol, especially during Neptune's retrograde period. This influence can make you especially susceptible to the illusionary effects of substances, which will diminish your clarity and cloud your judgment. Substances can also block the pathways between your unconscious and conscious mind. It's like drawing a curtain across the window overlooking your inner life. You won't grow if you can't see what's going on inside you.

Neptune's blessings
Heeding Neptune's messages through introspection, meditation, dream analysis or therapy will illuminate negative feelings that keep you stuck. The increased awareness that retrograde Neptune brings can help you make wiser choices so you can become the director of your own destiny.

Critical dates...

July 1-3: Lack of clarity in romance is likely when Neptune squares Venus and Mars at the beginning of July. Try not to make any major decisions regarding your relationship. It's also a tricky time to embark on a new relationship. Your prospective partner may not be what they seem, or you may misinterpret their intentions, so check them out thoroughly and take your time.

July 1-8: The Mars-Neptune clash continues for another few days, which can prompt you to take action on the wrong project (or person!). Think before you leap.

July 30-31: Miscommunications and cloudy judgment are likely when Neptune opposes Mercury at the end of July. Double-check your communications, documents and contracts.

Mid-September: The Neptune-Venus opposition heightens artistic inspiration but is a poor time for making choices in relationships.

The purpose of Neptune is to show us the pathway to our spiritual source. It also dissolves the boundaries that keep people apart and helps us see that we are one spiritual family. Perhaps most important, Neptune is the planet of compassion that connects us all through love.

Do you ever dream of me? Do you ever see the letters that I write?...

2009-05-21T23:58:00.007-05:00

Mario Benedetti... R.I.P

2009-05-17T21:01:00.010-05:00

Mario Benedetti, one of my favourite authors died today.

Rest in peace our beloved Poet.

No te salves

No te quedes inmóvil

al borde del camino

no congeles el júbilo

no quieras con desgana

no te salves ahora

ni nunca

no te salves

no te llenes de calma

no reserves del mundo

sólo un rincón tranquilo

no dejes caer los párpados

pesados como juicios

no te quedes sin labios

no te duermas sin sueño

no te pienses sin sangre

no te juzgues sin tiempo

pero si

pese a todo

no puedes evitarlo

y congelas el júbilo

y quieres con desgana

y te salvas ahora

y te llenas de calma

y reservas del mundo

sólo un rincón tranquilo

y dejas caer los párpados

pesados como juicios

y te secas sin labios

y te duermes sin sueño

y te piensas sin sangre

y te juzgas sin tiempo

y te quedas inmóvil

al borde del camino

y te salvas

entonces

no te quedes conmigo.

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Don't Save Yourself

Don’t remain immobile

At the edge of the road

Don’t freeze the joy

Don’t love half-heartedly

Don’t save yourself now

or ever

Don’t save yourself

Don’t get filled with calm

Don’t reserve in the world

Only a secure place

Don’t let your eyelids

fall heavily as judgments

Don’t speak without lips

Don’t sleep without sleepiness

Don’t imagine yourself without blood

Don’t judge yourself without time.

But if in spite of everything

You can’t help it,

And you freeze the joy

And you love half-heartedly

And you save yourself now,

And you get filled with calm

And you reserve in the world

Only a calm place,

And you let your eyelids fall

Heavily as judgments,

And you speak without lips,

And you sleep without sleepiness,

And you imagine yourself without blood,

And you judge yourself without time

And you remain immobile

At the edge of the road,

And you save yourself

Then

Don’t stay with me.

And after all...

2009-05-09T21:22:00.009-05:00

Watch full movie here

Fantastic movie for this Saturday night!!! :)

After all...

haven´t we all ever wished

we were the *exception to the rule*?

there are things...

2009-05-02T21:03:00.016-05:00

There are things that have accompanied me for 35 years and 9 months. They are things that are almost like printed in my DNA, but I say almost because they were told every single day by my Mum when I was in the womb.

Those things she said to me had an importance and a very good reason for being that only the ones who know the story of my life (like you do) would be able (if ever) to understand. Then, those things were reinforced (in the wrong way) unconscioulsy throughout my childhood. And those things are bothering me right now. A lot.

And I hope that I´ll be able to tell you those things, and the complete story that I recently knew. Because there are reasons for everything, and there are stories that I would like to tell you... and then if you can´t *accept them*, at least maybe you could understand them and understand *me*.

Do it anyway...

2009-04-27T01:01:00.000-05:00

People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. People who really want help may attack you if you help them. Help them anyway. Give the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world your best anyway.

Mother Theresa

mmm...;)

2009-04-24T01:00:00.001-05:00

something about friendship...

2009-04-23T20:06:00.011-05:00

Max & Lino

(María´s sons)

*No birth certificate is issued when friendship is born.
There is nothing tangible.
There is just a feeling that your life is different and
that your capacity to love and care has miraculously
been enlarged without any effort on your part.
It's like having a tiny apartment and somebody
moves in with you.
But instead of becoming cramped and crowded,
the space expands, and you discover rooms
you never knew you had until
your friend moved in with you.*

Steve Tesich

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I have always believed that there is

a special kind of Love in Friendship.

But Frienship is a very important part of Love.

In fact, I believe one of the most important parts.

Stones and Crystals. 2. Citrine, stone of abundance, wealth, success and prosperity

2009-04-18T00:36:00.020-05:00

Citrine

Healing with crystals and stones doesnt always mean that one is *ill*. For me it means that if there is a chance that I can incorporate more good and beautiful things in my life, I´ll take advantage of the tools and means. And also , of course, it means for me that the things I want to change in me and in my life and the things in me that I want to get rid of, are positively changing and I´m trying to get rid of the others, or at least while I learn... to *tame them*. Fear and anger ar the main targets now, and I have been able to see some progress in both areas.

I understand me and my feelings better and I have been able to have a deeper connection with my feelings and thoughts, (about me and about others) which sometimes is *difficult* if I were to blame my Moon in Aquarius. But yes, even after the *chat chat* I know what is inside my heart. And I do know what I feel. I am sure of what I feel, and I am happy for that. For me this means growing, walking through my path, going towards something, avoiding the static states in which sometimes I´ve fallen. Spiritually and professionally mainly speaking and emotionally sometimes too, eventhough I left the *numb phase* last year.

I have the blessing of the immense patience and guidance of my Reiki / Sacred Stones Master, who shows me the way of doing what I have to do and understands which are my concerns. She has also been able to progressively fix what needs to be fixed in my chakras. Now I want to finish my part of the job and be able to take the complete course and be able to heal others, and show others that there are things that I thought were just not possible, but that I am experiencing and enjoying. We´re also working with Obsidian with negativity and painful memories that even if I had put inside a box and I thought they had disappeared, they were there and they were blocking me. We´re working on that too, and I feel that 60% of the painful memories and negative energy from people ( that stays on us) are gone.

Citrine is associated with the 3rd Chakra. Manipura (or Solar Plexus Chakra). And the 3rd Chakra is associated with Sun and Mars, therefore they´re all connected.

I ´m using Citrine to help me with my fears. Specially with the *unknown source* fear. I discovered that I usually *act* with fear. That fear wasn´t letting me think properly at times and it was of no use in my life. When I don´t feel that *unknown source fear* I am able to understand me better, to understand others and circumstances better, to have a different point of view and different actions and reactions in life. And it will help me also with the stage fright. What a beautiful stone!.

Citrine:

Stone of abundance, wealth, success and prosperity; increases clarity of thought; enhances individuality, motivation, creativity and joy; magnifies powers of will and manifestation; attracts success and prosperity on all levels specially in business; enhances physical energy, self esteem, confidence and expression; protects from negative energy of others; brings optimism, playfulness and happiness; stimulates courage, imagination and self expression.

Keywords: Success, Abundance

Citrine is known as the "success stone" because it promotes success, prosperity, and abundance. It particularly promotes success in business, earning it another nickname, "merchant's stone", and is said to bring business if put in the cashbox of a shop or carried. Citrine is a stone of good fortune, although it brings good fortune in sometimes unexpected ways. It is a stone of manifestation, helping manifest abundance in many ways. Along with prosperity and good fortune, citrine imparts generosity, to share the wealth, so to speak.

Citrine dissipates negative energies of all kinds. It also does not absorb any negative energies from its surroundings, and thus never needs energentic clearing. Citrine can be used to clear unwanted energies from the environment. Family issues caused by negative energies can also be resolved and cleared with citrine. Since citrine eliminates negative energies, it helps generate stability in all areas, and is good for general protection.

In the mental area, citrine enhances mental clarity, confidence, and will power. It also increases creativity and promotes honesty.

Emotionally, citrine relieves depression, self-doubt, anger, and irrational mood swings. Citrine is a stone that brings happiness and cheer to one who carries or wears it. Citrine also reduces self-destructive tendencies. Citrine helps eliminate fears caused by others' ideas and suggestions. It can help one overcome emotional traumas and grief. Sensuality and sexuality can also be heightened by citrine.

In the psychic and spiritual realms, citrine is good for general psychic awareness and spiritual development. Citrine clears the aura of negative energies and influences. It is also very useful for meditation. Citrine is a stone of protection, removing or deflecting negative energies of all kinds. It is also excellent for dream recall and dream work.

Physically, citrine is beneficial for the digestion, stomach, eliminating nightmares and other sleep disturbances, thyroid, general health, heart, kidney, liver, muscles, strength, endocrine system, circulatory system, tissue regeneration, urinary system, immune system, fibromyalgia. Citrine is also good for removing toxins, and overcoming addictions.

Sources

http://reviews.ebay.com/Citrine-Magical-Properties_W0QQugidZ10000000004583101

http://www.crystalsandjewelry.com/metaphysical_healing/stoneinfo/citrine.html

My Stage Fright...

2009-04-15T23:42:00.014-05:00

*Sigh*

It´s been two weeks after not having a ear & vocal training class and I discovered that I chose a very difficult song to sing on my end of semester exam, not because it is difficult to *imitate*, but because I can´t find a style that suits my taste to sing it very different than the original singer who is Alicia Keys, and I don´t want it to sound as an *arrangement* of the song.

I studied all my excercises from the Ear Training Book,( from Berklee College of Music), which I found easier to understand than the ones I used to study almost 18 years ago at the Universidad de los Andes, when I was *planning* to become a professional singer. Yes, the methodology is different, it´s easier to understand and more logical, and also, I don´t have a 65 year old *Classic School* European teacher, but Alejandro Calle, a young Colombian teacher/performer who studied at Berklee and is specialised in Jazz, Soul and Bossa Nova. BIG difference. !!!

But, the part I am concerned today is that even if I had studied my lessons well, even if I could sing them very good and my pitch was correct and my breathing was correct and I thought the song was going well, my throat started to ache last night. This morning it was a very very bad sore throat. I looked and it was all red and swollen and it hurt a lot. I wanted to think that it was because of the medicine I am taking for acne ( Isotretinoin, known as Roaccutane) which *dries* all my body, incluidng hands, eyes, nose, mouth and of course throat, and also the fact that I´ve been smoking a lot in the past months.

I went to the music academy, and told Alejandro that maybe I was not going to be able to sing *very good* because of the sore throat, but that I had studied my lessons and that we could give the song a try. He agreed. I had to sing the excercises, and then the song , many times. I felt scared to sing because there were people outside the classroom and they could hear me. I thought it was awful, but I had to sing. Alejandro knows that the reason why I quit studing music when I was in the middle of the career was specifically my stage fright, and he´s focused on giving me tools to overcome this damn phobia. Also he says, - Even if we have to stay here until 12pm, you WILL sing.- So I had to sing, and slowly my throat wasn´t hurting that much. And I said well, I´m feeling better maybe it wasn´t a virus or something.

But when I left the academy, and I was coming back home I discovered that my throat was perfectly fine. I got here and I checked (I had checked in the mirror at the office and it was ugly) and it was perfectly normal. It doesn´t hurt anymore.

Conclusion, it´s coming back. The phobia is coming back. But I won´t let it win. I will do whatever it is necessary to really banish it from my life. I have to be able to show other people that I love music that I have a good voice and that I can *communicate* a message through singing. All those emotions, lyrics, music...I want to share them with others. And people who have heard me sing say I do it very good. It´s not only the *technique* but the feeling you put on it. So? yes I am insecure in *this area* and also I am a perfectionist when it comes to the things I do. And therefore, maybe deep deep inside I don´t feel that I am *good enough* to perform in front of an audience. Strange thing this phobia...

I will work with my Reiki and Sacred Stones Master, and we´ll definitely have to do something about this.

Here, some links I found, which I will read and see what I´ll do about this. I can´t get it back. Full stop. !!

http://www.anxietycoach.com/social1.htm

http://ezinearticles.com/?Natural-Cure-For-Stage-Fright&id=563472

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/149024/how_to_cope_with_stage_freight.html

http://www.eddielandsberg.com/stfreigh.html

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